chinaco
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My siblings and I have been rotating care giving of our mother. She had to go to the hospital again today. It was a minor problem in the scheme of things... However, she has some major health problems. We have decide to try to keep her out of a nursing home as long as practical. It is getting more difficult. We will stand by her as long as we can, but she is getting in the stages where more unanticipated health problems are occurring.
She is afraid. Unfortunately, the body is failing but the mind is still (mainly) intact. This is difficult. The writing is on the wall. It is a difficult time.
I have been struggling with an adult day care center. These places do make caregiving possible... but it is not without difficulties.
We are constrained on options of day care. The current place does help. And finallay after 4 managers in 3 years, a manager has taken an interest in my mother and is offering active involvment. Unfortuantely the employees are low paid, low education, generally try to do the least work they can get away with. Since my mother has mobility problems and needs hands on assistance she has been a victim of limited help.
I have tried a number of tactics. Bottom line, these places are dismal if you need much help.
I have sized it up as follows: The employees of these places are not pad much. They could almost match the pay as a convenience store. Many (not all) spend more time avoiding work than engaging. The other problem is poor managment (and a high turnover rate). A poor manager avoids people issues. Setting high standards of care takes work. Most managers of these places seem to be Register Nurses. While they are technically capable, they are inept managers.
It is a sad state of affairs!
She is afraid. Unfortunately, the body is failing but the mind is still (mainly) intact. This is difficult. The writing is on the wall. It is a difficult time.
I have been struggling with an adult day care center. These places do make caregiving possible... but it is not without difficulties.
We are constrained on options of day care. The current place does help. And finallay after 4 managers in 3 years, a manager has taken an interest in my mother and is offering active involvment. Unfortuantely the employees are low paid, low education, generally try to do the least work they can get away with. Since my mother has mobility problems and needs hands on assistance she has been a victim of limited help.
I have tried a number of tactics. Bottom line, these places are dismal if you need much help.
I have sized it up as follows: The employees of these places are not pad much. They could almost match the pay as a convenience store. Many (not all) spend more time avoiding work than engaging. The other problem is poor managment (and a high turnover rate). A poor manager avoids people issues. Setting high standards of care takes work. Most managers of these places seem to be Register Nurses. While they are technically capable, they are inept managers.
It is a sad state of affairs!