Enough is never enough.
When I was younger, I learned that the purpose of money was to make more money. For retirement, an emergency, etc. You never know how much money you're going to need in the future, so you spend little and work a lot to build a stash.
I did this for 40 working years, and now 10 years into retirement, these habits are tough to break. I'm starting to loosen up a little on spending, but I still want the stash to grow.
Old habits "die hard". And you don't know when it will rain, and it may pour.
Most have a different lens on what is "enough". But I think after 10 yrs of retirement, and the rest of your life spend acquiring...you are probably aware of what could happen vs what will happen.
I believe my folks and my in-law's both have this problem. They do give, they give to grandkids 529s and have given gifts to help their children, I included.
But, dad retired over 7yrs ago and his NW, although not back to all time high's from 2021 but still up 120% since retirement still has a hard time not being addicted to frugality.
Human's are creatures of habbit. I too am saving like a squirrel at 42 to finish my rat race sooner than Dad did. He could have pulled the plug sooner. He will leave all of his direct heirs millions at this rate.
But what's a person to do, he says he has everything he wants and needs. And he does. They remodeled the whole house, and took a frugal approach so it wasn't that much of a change. They travelled a little but mom is having more health issues so that limits money you can spend on travel. And travel has always been one of my biggest expenses...eliminate that in a budget and its a game changer. No way you can spend it all. What are you gonna do start spending 10k a year somewhere else?
I guess dad DOES start to spend elsewhere but STILL has money. Charity, gifting, small splurges.
Maybe someday big expenses will come. Maybe he needs to help one of his grandkids out with a medical bill or something. I will say, likely all but 2 of his grandkids college will be covered.
My in-laws have the same issues. They arent as frugal as my dad, but they don't overspend needlessly which means they both have MORE than... enough.
And certainly not my place to tell THEM how to spend their money. I definitely have given them some ideas from time to time though lol...ahem, trip to Hawaii...ahem, 529 contribution ...ahem dinners on Dad! ...ahem, this VACATION is on Dad....screeech... Dad locks up the tires hahahahah!