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Old 03-08-2017, 05:44 PM   #1
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I have not posted here in a while because nothing changed. I work in a very stressful and toxic workplace. It has become much worse the last several years. Here's my story Dealing with toxic workplace - Early Retirement & Financial Independence Community. I can afford to FIRE but something was always holding me back. Some rational concerns but mostly irrational ones. No matter how much I disliked the place I just couldn't leave.

Well I just want to say I finally did it!! Gave my notice and in a few weeks I'm free!! The conversation with the boss went well. Can't say I was nervous but it was surreal like the words I was saying was in a dream. Best way I can describe it is if you're thirsty and you are moving toward a water fountain. It's just something you have to do. No regrets or second thoughts. Looking forward to what the future holds.

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Old 03-08-2017, 05:54 PM   #2
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I have not posted here in a while because nothing changed. I work in a very stressful and toxic workplace. It has become much worse the last several years. Here's my story Dealing with toxic workplace - Early Retirement & Financial Independence Community. I can afford to FIRE but something was always holding me back. Some rational concerns but mostly irrational ones. No matter how much I disliked the place I just couldn't leave.

Well I just want to say I finally did it!! Gave my notice and in a few weeks I'm free!! The conversation with the boss went well. Can't say I was nervous but it was surreal like the words I was saying was in a dream. Best way I can describe it is if you're thirsty and you are moving toward a water fountain. It's just something you have to do. No regrets or second thoughts. Looking forward to what the future holds.

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I remember the thread. Congrats on hanging two more years.
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Old 03-08-2017, 06:17 PM   #3
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Congratulations. You only live once.
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Old 03-08-2017, 06:42 PM   #4
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I have not posted here in a while because nothing changed. I work in a very stressful and toxic workplace. It has become much worse the last several years. Here's my story Dealing with toxic workplace - Early Retirement & Financial Independence Community. I can afford to FIRE but something was always holding me back. Some rational concerns but mostly irrational ones. No matter how much I disliked the place I just couldn't leave.

Well I just want to say I finally did it!! Gave my notice and in a few weeks I'm free!! The conversation with the boss went well. Can't say I was nervous but it was surreal like the words I was saying was in a dream. Best way I can describe it is if you're thirsty and you are moving toward a water fountain. It's just something you have to do. No regrets or second thoughts. Looking forward to what the future holds.

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Congrats !!! Dont worry too much. Enjoy life. I got out of a toxic work environment last year. I was ready to call it quits, but found a job at the beginning of 2017. My coworkers now are great.
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Old 03-08-2017, 07:12 PM   #5
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Good for you! I was also in a toxic workplace after my boss retired. One of the supervisors was called a "drive by shooter" as she would wander around sniping at us. In retaliation, we kept copies of her work input, and it was worse than any of ours!
I just grinned and bore it until mid January when my 7% profit sharing was posted to my 401K and pulled the plug!
P.S At one time I was in a toxic marriage and my health suffered just like yours did. I also pulled the plug on that.
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Thanks for posting. I too remember the thread.

Congratulations! Great for you to get away from insanity!
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Old 03-09-2017, 06:00 AM   #7
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Congrats!

Your surreal conversation with the boss reminded me of the one I had last year with mine. I disliked the guy, but I still felt something like nervousness although I think it was more of my leaping off the cliff. Once I did it the sense of relief was awesome.

Good luck.
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Old 03-09-2017, 03:25 PM   #9
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Congratulations! I'd love to hear about how you envision the first day after. Doesn't have to be a grand plan, just interested in how concrete you are making it - even if "I'm going to give the dog a really long walk and then a bath" take up your first morning!

Me, I have a manila envelope of some particularly awful memories - ones of "everything will fall apart," variety (no I haven't kept all, just a few) and I fully intend to shred them slowly. Depending on the weather, I'll do it early in the morning or later that night, but I will do it, particularly that very first crisis (not caused by me, but I had to figure it out and get out of it) back in 1990 - I've preserved my huge handwritten chart of all the issues - and, man, do I look forward to slowly shredding that thing!

I hope you will, or have already, made decisions and actions that have made your non-work life sane and beautiful!
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Old 03-09-2017, 07:00 PM   #10
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I originally gave 12 months notice; but at month 8 I was at my wit's end. I'll never forget my boss's reaction when I asked if I could cut out early with just 4 weeks notice from that point. He smiled, said he couldn't blame me and let me out of the contract. Just like that.
He calls occasionally with a question and I always make time for him.
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I have not posted here in a while because nothing changed. I work in a very stressful and toxic workplace. It has become much worse the last several years. Here's my story Dealing with toxic workplace - Early Retirement & Financial Independence Community. I can afford to FIRE but something was always holding me back. Some rational concerns but mostly irrational ones. No matter how much I disliked the place I just couldn't leave.

Well I just want to say I finally did it!! Gave my notice and in a few weeks I'm free!! The conversation with the boss went well. Can't say I was nervous but it was surreal like the words I was saying was in a dream. Best way I can describe it is if you're thirsty and you are moving toward a water fountain. It's just something you have to do. No regrets or second thoughts. Looking forward to what the future holds.

Francis
Reading your post prompted me to bring up my 2008 resignation letter. It was short and to the point. It was a surreal experience, telling my bosses (2 of 3 were present, the divisionhead was not back from a meeting) I was leaving. I just handed them my resignation letter. They weren't very stunned. That was over 8 years ago and I still get chills recalling those few minutes. Welcome to ER.
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Congratulations! If all goes well - i will be giving my notice in one year too.
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