bright eyed
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well, i tend to be a bud-insky myself when it comes to my close friends.
i think the cautionary tone was mostly in terms of confronting the guy.
in terms of your friend, it seems she could use some tools on finding perspective and learning how to move on from past traumas- it takes a lot of energy to be angry and hold grudges. she is eating up a good part of her life that way.
perhaps a good book about that would help prod her thinking? then she can take it at her own pace - if in fact she does want to "move on"/find some resolution etc. some people don't - and as you say if she clings to these wounds - it will be a long road until she can form new mental and emotional "habits"...i wouldn't make it about the rape - but just her general life approach to how she sees the value of her experiences in the present and what she wants in the future.
good luck!!!
i think the cautionary tone was mostly in terms of confronting the guy.
in terms of your friend, it seems she could use some tools on finding perspective and learning how to move on from past traumas- it takes a lot of energy to be angry and hold grudges. she is eating up a good part of her life that way.
perhaps a good book about that would help prod her thinking? then she can take it at her own pace - if in fact she does want to "move on"/find some resolution etc. some people don't - and as you say if she clings to these wounds - it will be a long road until she can form new mental and emotional "habits"...i wouldn't make it about the rape - but just her general life approach to how she sees the value of her experiences in the present and what she wants in the future.
good luck!!!
