lazygood4nothinbum
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about 25 years ago, my dear friend was date-raped by another old friend of ours. she never told anyone--not even her husband who she met after the fact--sharing this pain with no one until she told me a year or two ago.
the rapist is a really nice guy who has gone beyond the call of duty to help his friends. i was stunned when she told me. i am certain that this guy, who i know has a conscience, is living with regret and it seems to me that she has been psychologically damaged by keeping this pain inside her.
she has avoided him for all these years, though she did show up in the last 1/2 hour of our reunion two years ago. the first time the two were in the same room together since the rape. she was very nervous about being there but managed to do ok & he wound up leaving earlier than most of us.
we might all be together again later this year in new york for our 50th birthday party. i feel certain that if i confronted the guy that he would apologize to our friend. i also feel that would help my dear friend to begin to heal.
but she has forbidden me to talk to our friend (or anyone--so you guys don't count) about this. doing nothing makes me feel like i am watching her drown. what would you do?
the rapist is a really nice guy who has gone beyond the call of duty to help his friends. i was stunned when she told me. i am certain that this guy, who i know has a conscience, is living with regret and it seems to me that she has been psychologically damaged by keeping this pain inside her.
she has avoided him for all these years, though she did show up in the last 1/2 hour of our reunion two years ago. the first time the two were in the same room together since the rape. she was very nervous about being there but managed to do ok & he wound up leaving earlier than most of us.
we might all be together again later this year in new york for our 50th birthday party. i feel certain that if i confronted the guy that he would apologize to our friend. i also feel that would help my dear friend to begin to heal.
but she has forbidden me to talk to our friend (or anyone--so you guys don't count) about this. doing nothing makes me feel like i am watching her drown. what would you do?