easysurfer
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I just declined a wedding invitation to the son of a friend. We used to hang out together when he was little and still today from time to time I still hang out with my friend (her son's all grown up and pretty much has his own life now). Also, they live about 1000 miles away which is where the wedding is.
It's his second marriage (I attended his first one). Before sending out the wedding invites, the couple had a pre-invitation post on Facebook (guess that's how things roll today.. ) saying if you want an invitation, fill out this private form.
My main question is, when you decline an invitation, is it customary to say why you are declining, or is just saying you will not attend okay?
How I handled things was first when I heard about the upcoming invitation, I sent out a couple of trial balloon emails to my friend (which were unanswered). Then looking at the situation, it just wasn't practical for me to attend.
So, today, I messaged the son on Facebook, saying that I would not attend, but that I'll do the next best thing which is to wait for when he posted a recap on Facebook. Then (which is true), I said that I enjoy the pictures he posts of him and his bride-to-be as they look like a happy couple. Then I asked if they have a wedding registry to be sure to send me a link.
I got a message back..him thanking me, and then saying "I hope you are doing well."
On one hand feel I what I did was very appropriate and on the other do feel a little guilty for not attending in person.
Your thoughts?
It's his second marriage (I attended his first one). Before sending out the wedding invites, the couple had a pre-invitation post on Facebook (guess that's how things roll today.. ) saying if you want an invitation, fill out this private form.
My main question is, when you decline an invitation, is it customary to say why you are declining, or is just saying you will not attend okay?
How I handled things was first when I heard about the upcoming invitation, I sent out a couple of trial balloon emails to my friend (which were unanswered). Then looking at the situation, it just wasn't practical for me to attend.
So, today, I messaged the son on Facebook, saying that I would not attend, but that I'll do the next best thing which is to wait for when he posted a recap on Facebook. Then (which is true), I said that I enjoy the pictures he posts of him and his bride-to-be as they look like a happy couple. Then I asked if they have a wedding registry to be sure to send me a link.
I got a message back..him thanking me, and then saying "I hope you are doing well."
On one hand feel I what I did was very appropriate and on the other do feel a little guilty for not attending in person.
Your thoughts?
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