I'd try cooking or eating simpler things while you are at home. Every meal doesn't have to be a big affair. Sandwiches, soup, leftovers. And mix in some take out or dining out.
I have noticed the uptick in dishes, too. Even when it's just me and the 2 year old here during the day. Thank goodness for the dishwasher (except it just broke and we are doing dishes the old fashioned way this week).
Downsize the house/yard to something more manageable? No reason to live the rest of your life in something that makes you unhappy.
So I think it's important to think about these things - how do you divide up stuff.
Very good ideas.
Mr B and I are not married but we live together, as if. We negotiate and divvy things up according to dislikes and as applicable, abilities.
- I hate shopping. He hates housecleaning. I do all cleaning, he does all grocery and miscellaneous shopping. I'm getting the better deal.
- He hates laundry but assists me in hanging/folding/making beds.
- I do all the outdoor yard w*rk because I don't want him to overdo physically. I have a wonderful guy friend who will come up to help or perform the task solo if it is beyond my physical abilities.
In return, Mr B does all the auto appointments...sets them up, takes the cars down to the garage, keeps track of oil change schedule, buys the tires, etc.
- I hate paperw*rk and doing phone calls. He does the cost splitting calculations and insurance matters. He makes all the business calls for household accounts.
- We both love to cook. If it's "his turn", he will do takeout or actually cook after I've been invited "out of the kitchen, woman".
- Our leisure activity preferences are very different. Most of our together time is at home. We each pursue our own outside interests. It all balances out.
Somewhere there has to be compromise.