Khan
Gone but not forgotten
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I think what I object to is the way that the theme of the grad party has changed. Instead of the benevolent oversight demonstrated by TromboneAl it's mutated into a posse of vigilantes waving oaths, conducting personnel searches, and essentially locking the teens away to "be safe". Supervision at the absolute lowest common denominator. Scramble to get in line to be carted away for mandatory fun.
I'm surprised that our teen is putting up with it. She's already declined school's opportunities to do an "optional" senior-year project (required to qualify for valedictorian) and to participate in the graduation ceremony. She's quite accustomed to going her own way regardless of whether that appears to be a good idea or not. I had expected the parental personalities involved with Project Grad to cause her to veer away from this one, too, but I guess the combination of mystery and "last chance with friends" make it irresistible.
Maybe it's cultural/family expectations. High school graduation around here is a very big deal compared to college. Over 10% of her senior class is already not qualified to graduate or dropped out long ago, and of the remaining 90% only a handful seem interested, let alone excited, about college. Most of the stories are "Oh, yeah, I guess I'll take classes at UH" while living with the family and working minimum-wage shifts.
I saw college as my chance to [-]get the hell outta Dodge[/-] gain some independence and start my own life. I guess if these seniors aren't looking forward to that then high-school graduation seems like a pretty important rite of passage.
Maybe the seniors have yet to learn what a number of 19- & 20-year-olds at taekwondo have already figured out. They're scrambling for scholarships, applying for internships, transferring community-college credits to universities, and turning black belts into résumé bullets...
I guess I'm an old fogey who doesn't understand why young ones don't want to leave. I was so ready to leave that small town and head out to who knows what.