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Old 10-26-2010, 10:52 AM   #21
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My grandma made it into her 90s. Up until about 2 years before she passed she was still, as she put it, "Helping out the old folks" at the hospital. Most were younger than her.

When she did finally need to go to a home she just sort of withered. Only made it about a year and gave up. She seemed to feel that life wasn't worth it anymore since she couldn't be at home, and all of her friends had already passed.
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Old 10-26-2010, 11:05 AM   #22
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You hit on the reason for her success.
- Keeping active and helping others.

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My grandma made it into her 90s. Up until about 2 years before she passed she was still, as she put it, "Helping out the old folks" at the hospital. Most were younger than her.
- Knowing it is time to go.

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When she did finally need to go to a home she just sort of withered. Only made it about a year and gave up. She seemed to feel that life wasn't worth it anymore since she couldn't be at home, and all of her friends had already passed.
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Husband and I are reviewing our health care directives and medical power of attorneys. We changed our state of residence so wanted to make sure they are compliant. During the course of researching this I found that Oregon has a POLST process where a patient and physician together prepare a document which is entered into a system available to first responders, EMTs, and hospitals that operates like a health care directive. Patients and Families

http://www.ohsu.edu/polst/programs/O...STRegistry.htm
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My grandma made it into her 90s. Up until about 2 years before she passed she was still, as she put it, "Helping out the old folks" at the hospital. Most were younger than her.
I volunteer 1-2x/week at the local Meals-on-Wheels organization.

We have a few of the "original staff", one of which is in her early 90's, yet comes out every week, to deliver meals to the elderly, disabled, and shut-in's.

She was upset because she was one of the drivers, but had to give that up at age 90 (There are two people on each route - one as driver, the other as "visitor" who goes into the house/apartment).

May I live as well as her (heck, I'm "only" 62 )...
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Playing piano at a few different retirement homes has given me a new perspective on this. Some of these places are like permanent Club Meds. The residents get table service at meal times and hang out with their buddies. They play cards and Wii games and have different activities. There are events and trips. They have happy hour with real booze. We paid big bucks to go to a Club Med that was just like this, but without wheelchairs and walkers.

If you're a gregarious sort (I'm not) you'd want to move in to one of these places sooner rather than later.

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I marvel at the ability of octogenarians & nonagenarians to refer to others as "old people"...
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Husband and I are reviewing our health care directives and medical power of attorneys. We changed our state of residence so wanted to make sure they are compliant. During the course of researching this I found that Oregon has a POLST process where a patient and physician together prepare a document which is entered into a system available to first responders, EMTs, and hospitals that operates like a health care directive. Patients and Families

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An elegant solution to a very frustrating issue. I can't tell you how many times I have had intubated, resuscitated patients delivered to the ER only to find out that they had very clear wishes against such interventions on a POLST that wasn't readily available.

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have different activities.
I understand that STD's are quite rampant in such places (may I live so long )...
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And I only refer to "moi" as an "old phart" ...
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An elegant solution to a very frustrating issue. I can't tell you how many times I have had intubated, resuscitated patients delivered to the ER only to find out that they had very clear wishes against such interventions on a POLST that wasn't readily available.

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This system was evidently created as a result of an incident involving a beloved Portland lady whose MedPOA representatives were unavailable. As I read between the lines her heirs provided the resources to help this happen.
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Yes, Grandma definitely did it right. Great rolemodel in these and many other aspects. It was hard to watch the choice she made that final year. But, I understood why she made it.

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- Knowing it is time to go.
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