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I’ve seen a surprising number of threads on NextDoor.com with members complaining about their neighbors, they know which house the offending neighbors live in. Things like “smoking weed in their backyard”, “spying on us in our backyard” or “I didn’t see it but their dog peed on my flowers.”
If I have an issue with a neighbor, whether I’ve met them or not, I’d politely ask them about it. There might be a logical explanation, they might change their behavior if we talk it over, or we might find a compromise we can both live with. If the shoe was on the other foot, I’d want my neighbor to talk to me before resorting to the police, an HOA or another outsider first. If that doesn’t work, you accept or consider another step if it’s worth it.
But about half the replies want to “call the police” or “report them to the HOA” as a first response? Others say drop an anonymous nasty note in their mailbox or taped to the door, threatening to call the police. They tell the OP you shouldn’t have to be involved at all. These respondents seem highly indignant and self righteous to me.
About half the replies are the former (incl me) and half the latter. Comical and sad IMO.
Unless it’s obviously criminal, dangerous or a long history, seems sad we can’t just talk to our neighbors.
If I have an issue with a neighbor, whether I’ve met them or not, I’d politely ask them about it. There might be a logical explanation, they might change their behavior if we talk it over, or we might find a compromise we can both live with. If the shoe was on the other foot, I’d want my neighbor to talk to me before resorting to the police, an HOA or another outsider first. If that doesn’t work, you accept or consider another step if it’s worth it.
But about half the replies want to “call the police” or “report them to the HOA” as a first response? Others say drop an anonymous nasty note in their mailbox or taped to the door, threatening to call the police. They tell the OP you shouldn’t have to be involved at all. These respondents seem highly indignant and self righteous to me.
About half the replies are the former (incl me) and half the latter. Comical and sad IMO.
Unless it’s obviously criminal, dangerous or a long history, seems sad we can’t just talk to our neighbors.
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