Orchidflower
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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I see more posts all the time where someone jumps in and insinuates that if you dress decently--and I don't mean designer clothing, but just nicely--or you take flying lessons or whatever that you are GASP! not LBYM.
Yes, I watch sales. Yes, I use coupons for items when I can, although, I admit, I hardly ever clip grocery coupons as I buy little processed foods. Yes, I use the net to find the best deals on whatever I buy. Hell, I can hardly buy things at the retail value anymore as I am such a deal person; BUT, you can carry the LBYM's thing just too far and cut all the pleasures of life out.
I, for one, don't plan to dress like I belong at Good Hope Mission or drive a 25 year old car that might break down in the hood or not eat healthy, balanced foods--with real meat--or go to the annual Thanksgiving dinner here that some charitable fellow sponsors just to LBYM (that would be me and all the other people on food stamps at the meal if I went, which I won't). And, believe it or not, I know a couple with money who lived in the tony neighborhood I'm in now that actually went to this free dinner every year, which, to me, says not only are they moochers but have no pride. Is this just my perception or is the LBYM philosophy?
Am I the only one who thinks you can carry the LBYM's thing just too darned far? Am I alone here? And, if so, I must sound like a spendthrift to you LBYMers.
There is such a thing as quality of life, too, and I have seen my parents and others carry this LBYM's thing so far that they really screwed themselves out of all the fun in life and a decent quality of life--despite the fact that they had a great deal put away.
And one of the most obvious things I saw them destroy for themselves was the caring and love of others. They were so tight that they didn't allow family or friends in, and became very paranoid of others. I guess offering a meal would be too much to do for someone else. Tight, tight, tight. But was it really worth it to live this lifestyle? I don't think so.
As for me, I'll keep digging for deals on what I want to buy; but, I plan to eat well and enjoy myself, too. I want a quality of life that allows some joy in it, myself. And if that means having someone over for dinner or buying a new expensive tv that should last 15 or more years or taking dance lessons, then I plan to do it. Granted, I will dig for the best deal for the money as I have a heck of a time paying retail anymore, but I will do it after finding the best deal for the money.
I just think you can carry this LBYM attitude way too far in this life.
Just my thoughts...and I'm stickin' to them.
Yes, I watch sales. Yes, I use coupons for items when I can, although, I admit, I hardly ever clip grocery coupons as I buy little processed foods. Yes, I use the net to find the best deals on whatever I buy. Hell, I can hardly buy things at the retail value anymore as I am such a deal person; BUT, you can carry the LBYM's thing just too far and cut all the pleasures of life out.
I, for one, don't plan to dress like I belong at Good Hope Mission or drive a 25 year old car that might break down in the hood or not eat healthy, balanced foods--with real meat--or go to the annual Thanksgiving dinner here that some charitable fellow sponsors just to LBYM (that would be me and all the other people on food stamps at the meal if I went, which I won't). And, believe it or not, I know a couple with money who lived in the tony neighborhood I'm in now that actually went to this free dinner every year, which, to me, says not only are they moochers but have no pride. Is this just my perception or is the LBYM philosophy?
Am I the only one who thinks you can carry the LBYM's thing just too darned far? Am I alone here? And, if so, I must sound like a spendthrift to you LBYMers.
There is such a thing as quality of life, too, and I have seen my parents and others carry this LBYM's thing so far that they really screwed themselves out of all the fun in life and a decent quality of life--despite the fact that they had a great deal put away.
And one of the most obvious things I saw them destroy for themselves was the caring and love of others. They were so tight that they didn't allow family or friends in, and became very paranoid of others. I guess offering a meal would be too much to do for someone else. Tight, tight, tight. But was it really worth it to live this lifestyle? I don't think so.
As for me, I'll keep digging for deals on what I want to buy; but, I plan to eat well and enjoy myself, too. I want a quality of life that allows some joy in it, myself. And if that means having someone over for dinner or buying a new expensive tv that should last 15 or more years or taking dance lessons, then I plan to do it. Granted, I will dig for the best deal for the money as I have a heck of a time paying retail anymore, but I will do it after finding the best deal for the money.
I just think you can carry this LBYM attitude way too far in this life.
Just my thoughts...and I'm stickin' to them.
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