ziggy29
Moderator Emeritus
Actually, we're seeing a lot of "crab mentality" when it comes to which entities are getting bailouts...
It sounds like your friend may be suffering from "crab mentality".
I think this is right on the money. I believe most spendthrifts know that it isn't wise to live that way, but find themselves unable to discipline themselves and control their childish impulses. Pressuring their friends and relatives to roll in the same poop with them makes them feel better about their bad behavior in a "misery loves company" sort of way.
Wow, lots of Frugalistas on this forum that have really come out of the woodwork to knock down folks who seem to spend more.
I've found that if people are commenting about your frugality, then you are probably flaunting your frugality in their face. And many of the responses in this thread demonstrate this to be true.
So who is frugal, but your family, friends and colleagues don't even know it?
i am very frugal, but every time i drive my mid-life crisis convertible, it kinda blows my cover.Wow, lots of Frugalistas on this forum that have really come out of the woodwork to knock down folks who seem to spend more.
I've found that if people are commenting about your frugality, then you are probably flaunting your frugality in their face. And many of the responses in this thread demonstrate this to be true.
So who is frugal, but your family, friends and colleagues don't even know it?
...How do I not bring my lunch to work?
How can I stop saying IT if you don't tell me what IT is?OMG get the FIRE rescue squad! she said THAT WORD!
the...the....4-letter W WORDOMG get the FIRE rescue squad! she said THAT WORD!
We quit using wrap several years ago for gifts in the family. For Christmas, we have a number of cloth bags
Gotcha!I edited it.
i'm gonna make ya feel better pronto - i have 4 siblings like this.I think crab mentality works the other way too. My sis and bro are both in very bad financial shape...
The "reverse crab mentality" here is that both of the above siblings are always quick to say "its not fair that you have -fill in the blank-."
Sorry for the rambling...but, Rambler I am...
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The bankers and credit card companies are the enablers in this, and we are bailing them out?
Heeeeyy, doesn't everybody do that?The person I mentioned earlier who uses un-used wallpaper as gift wrapping paper would mix pickle juice (juice in a jar of pickles) with olive oil to make home made salad dressing. She always made sure and used the plastic bag the sliced bread came in as a sandwich bag when all bread was gone. She always went to the "almost expired" section of supermarkets first to get stuff half price.
I'd never heard of that analogy before Hawaii, but around here it's cultural. A popular kid twilight activity is catching sandcrabs on the beach, putting them in a five-gallon bucket, and watching the metaphor in action.This board is great. Never heard of the crab mentality. Learn something new every day
The only consolation I have is that they must be living a miserably stressful life-- like that guy in the credit commercial who's smiling as he rides his tractor mower while the soundtrack says "I'm in debt up to my eyeballs-- somebody please [-]kill[/-] help me!"The "reverse crab mentality" here is that both of the above siblings are always quick to say "its not fair that you have -fill in the blank-."
ditto.
i have actually seen live crabs do this. ah, the days of catching fresh blue crab on the lower Hudson River, every 2nd week of August.
I would restrain from criticizing how someone spends his/her money. But pride in declaring bankruptcy to cheat on payments for luxurious goods, not unavoidable medical bills or due to joblessness, is truly reprehensible.