ziggy29
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Step One.One of my co-workers was clearly alcoholic. I said to her, “of course, you don’t have a drinking problem.” She went ballistic, “yes, I do!”
Step One.One of my co-workers was clearly alcoholic. I said to her, “of course, you don’t have a drinking problem.” She went ballistic, “yes, I do!”
I unsuccessfully tried to get someone to leave her spouse. We all knew something was not right with him. Should have tried harder. Turned out the spouse was abusing the kids, resulting in the suicide of one of the children.
Since that occurred I am far more likely to say exactly what I think.
Or himself- bad either way. I just don't like physical confrontations, so I have kind of an autopilot stay away reaction. Also, I hadn't been around him much as we lived many states apart and I really didn't have a protocol ready to call on.Good post, Ha. As for physically taking the keys from a drunk, it's a tough question. How would you have felt if he'd killed someone on the way home?
Or himself- bad either way. I just don't like physical confrontations, so I have kind of an autopilot stay away reaction. Also, I hadn't been around him much as we lived many states apart and I really didn't have a protocol ready to call on.
After Laurence and your comments, I think I might give it a shot, if I thought it would't likely involve me in a fight.
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Most of us have not been in that situation. However, if it appears that child abuse is involved, same as many people here, I would have no qualm about calling the police.
Even though I have a very close relationship with my parents, it took me almost 50 years to realize they know a thing or two. As a matter of fact, I listen to them now more than I ever have.I'm having that problem right now too. I've learned that my opinion is not wanted at all. It's very hard biting the tongue all the time...it's sore.
I'm pretty much not speaking with her right now unless she speaks to me first.
Thank goodness my relatives are pretty normal (without damaging dependencies or noticeable financial issues)
I greatly admire TE Lawrence (of Lawrence of Arabia fame): One of the reasons for my admiration is that Lawrence would make a statement once, if you weren’t smart enough to see his point, he moved on, wasting no more energy trying to convince someone of his position.
IMHO, there is absolutely nothing wrong with giving advice. The problem arises how you do it and once you have given it. Most cannot give advice in a dispassionate fashion, and more importantly, disassociate any further contact surrounding that advice. Most become emotionally involved in the outcome, and continue to push for that outcome, and therein is the problem.
I greatly admire TE Lawrence (of Lawrence of Arabia fame): One of the reasons for my admiration is that Lawrence would make a statement once, if you weren’t smart enough to see his point, he moved on, wasting no more energy trying to convince someone of his position.
Or himself- bad either way. I just don't like physical confrontations,
Is this found in Seven Pillars of Wisdom?
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I tried reading the Seven Pillars once. Didn't make it 100 pages. It ranks right up there with Ulysses in my list of books that are definitely above my pay grade.