There was rain in the forecast but the coating of pollen on everything had DD and I outside washing the cars. My college freshmen (now sophmore rising) son pulled up, retuning from his winter semester, in my old 130K Honda CRV with little fanfare. I kept that car because of suggestions from this forum that it there was plenty of life there and it was perfectly suited a ‘parking lot queen’. Of course you all were right - it makes the one and half hour drive, sits in the lot and gets out for the occasional ‘Hoagie’ run. With little fanfare he got out of the car and smiled and turned to go into the house. I said “Hey don’t you have stuff to carry in?” He turned grabbed a single duffel bag and calmly went into the house.
It occurs to me that DD and he could not be more different. She is the ‘wired’ over achiever that worries about everything. Just yesterday, I overheard he telling her Mom she ran into a HS classmate at the gym who commented how she “had her stuff together” good job, graduate school, long term boyfriend, house hunting and marriage planning. Of course her answer: I really don’t know what Im doing! I cant help but wonder why people like my daughter don’t just say: It is going all according to the master plan -don’t you have a plan?
I get the sense my son is enjoying his college days - still with the same girlfriend from the first 2 weeks of school in the fall. And Oh there have been rumors of grade improvement to the target range. I’ll get the real scoop in a few days. Now don’t get me wrong his first semester was much better then I hoped but I’ve explained to him we live in an uber competitive world and “If you don’t get the grades Your wasting our money. I’ll yank you out of there and you can go locally”. Yes at times I can be a real bully. This bully used to sit next to next to the HR department and witnessed the weeding out process first hand. Me: I rather hire a guy who had a 3.0 and full time job over a prima Donna who never worked a day in their lives but sport a 3.8.
I’ve even seen signs that the young guy is starting to get it? He signed up for a online summer course without prompting! In lieu of finding that elusive summe job I’d like him to consider a summer course at Penn State Brandywine. I suspect he believes summer is better spent sitting in the sun. I was lucky and always had that summer job because desperately needed it. Him not so much but I suspect it will all right.
It occurs to me that DD and he could not be more different. She is the ‘wired’ over achiever that worries about everything. Just yesterday, I overheard he telling her Mom she ran into a HS classmate at the gym who commented how she “had her stuff together” good job, graduate school, long term boyfriend, house hunting and marriage planning. Of course her answer: I really don’t know what Im doing! I cant help but wonder why people like my daughter don’t just say: It is going all according to the master plan -don’t you have a plan?
I get the sense my son is enjoying his college days - still with the same girlfriend from the first 2 weeks of school in the fall. And Oh there have been rumors of grade improvement to the target range. I’ll get the real scoop in a few days. Now don’t get me wrong his first semester was much better then I hoped but I’ve explained to him we live in an uber competitive world and “If you don’t get the grades Your wasting our money. I’ll yank you out of there and you can go locally”. Yes at times I can be a real bully. This bully used to sit next to next to the HR department and witnessed the weeding out process first hand. Me: I rather hire a guy who had a 3.0 and full time job over a prima Donna who never worked a day in their lives but sport a 3.8.
I’ve even seen signs that the young guy is starting to get it? He signed up for a online summer course without prompting! In lieu of finding that elusive summe job I’d like him to consider a summer course at Penn State Brandywine. I suspect he believes summer is better spent sitting in the sun. I was lucky and always had that summer job because desperately needed it. Him not so much but I suspect it will all right.
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