Thought I would post a little update on this. I am 38 now and can't believe it has been almost ten years when I first discovered this forum.
I feel pretty good that when I first posted my investments were $250k and are now up to about $1.4M not including the money we have stashed for kids' college education or our house. I don't think I would have imagined that happening especially with our income not changing too drastically during that time and raising three children ages 10, 8, and 6.
We make around $140k/year now and have definitely focused less on furthering our careers, and more on maximizing family life and spending time with our children. Really just been because we have stayed almost 100% equities in our portfolio and keep on maximizing our retirement contributions. We both still have our same jobs, live in the same community, and really enjoy the house we bought six years ago. When I first posted on this forum 9 years ago I didn't have a specific goal of when I would ER, because of all the externalities that I can't predict and I still don't, but it sure feels like it is getting closer. Our average spend is around $3500/month not including our mortgage which should be paid off in the next five years or so. I would much rather retire with a house that is fully paid for from a pure psychological stand point, even if it doesn't make sense financially with such low rates.
Anyway just thought I would post a little update. Really love this forum.