Re: Arianna "Splains It
HaHa said:
How about you men, would you marry or couple -up someone with way more money than you? A way better job?
I wouldn't marry for money, I'd marry for loooooove. I don't think the money (or the lack of it) would affect the attraction either way. Of course with my personality I'd find it very hard to love a spendthrift.
Many husbands seem to have marriage confused with competition instead of partnership. I remember a Covey-style demonstration of giving a couple $1 for each game of arm wrestling they completed. The money's not just to the winner-- it's to both of them to split, and they get $1 for each match. It's pretty funny to watch the men struggle & sweat to win each match, until the woman points out that the more matches they complete, the more money they'll have. After that the arms flop back & forth like flounders as the cash piles up.
But it's almost always the woman who has to point out that change in paradigm.
Same in business-- no one would expect Bill Gates to get along with Larry Ellison. Yet I'll bet Andrea Jung is very interested in helping Meg Whitman sell more Avon on eBay. It's cooperation, not competition.
So you're right, Laurence-- it's the man's problem.
I like the old slogan "A woman has to work twice as hard as a man to be thought half as good. Fortunately for us women, that's easy to do."
Hey, women outnumber men at college now? Suddenly I feel an urge to be more educated...