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....An advice columnist would tell you to get tested for STDs considering the multiple partners. .......
Never thought of that one...
....An advice columnist would tell you to get tested for STDs considering the multiple partners. .......
+1
Stay away from women for a while. Your happiness comes from within, not who you're with. ....
I disagree the OP shoud "stay away from women for a while."
Conversely, I see no reason the OP shouldn't have as many friendships with as many women as he desires or is comfortable with - yet making it clear he is not considering marriage to any for some time.
A truly gnarly conversation. I think you should stop posting about this, talk only to an experienced attorney and face to face friends.Logic and common sense doesn't always follow law... unfortunately it is difficult to prove adultery. That said, I have a pretty slam dunk case if it goes that route. I have my wife on audio tape (legally acquired) admitting to it in specific details (dates, times, positions, etc...)
I have no personal experience with adultery, and if I did I am kind of no fault when it comes to someone's passions. But I think you are likely wrong about the part played by adultery. I think the entire US has no fault divorce. Go get represented and find out reality. To the best of my knowledge, though adultery may operate on people's feelings in negotiations, be careful in assuming that her adultery has any effect on how you might emerge from this financially.As I understand it... legally there is no reason for me to pay her any spousal support. However, we have a special needs child and although she is college educated she hasn't been working for 4 years. There are provisional clauses under the adultery cases where a wife still cannot be left destitute and courts have a habit of putting the children first (rightfully so).
A truly gnarly conversation. I think you should stop posting about this, talk only to an experienced attorney and face to face friends.
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Keep us posted. Sounds like you have a good plan. Good thing you are not in California.
A good friend went thru a "bitter" divorce ... when asked how the "split" worked for him he said "1/3 to her, 1/3 to me, 1/3 to the lawyers". That's reason enough to get a concentual aggreement ... keep it out of the courts.
I have heard CA is a nightmare. Isn't there a mandatory lifetime commitment to support a lower income spouse you've been married to for 10 years?
Sorry to hear you have similar experiences. I can empathize on some level. I never in a million years would have thought this could happen to me.
I found out not long after that that my wife has borderline personality disorder and a bit of narcissism. She's also on depression meds.
We all know of people with personality disorders be it narcissism, obsession, possessive, ... I've dealt with a few myself (crazy neighbor, close family member). Despite our good nature, these folks can really push the limit of our patience and, sometimes, we don't see it coming until it's too late. Good luck and best wishes to your future.