MovingtotheCove
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- Nov 9, 2008
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My father is 89 and my mother is 87. In their own home yet with father still driving. Up to mid July both did pretty well. My mother fell down a flight of stairs....broke her neck (C1, C2, and C5) and her shoulder and her collarbone and ribs and her elbow and a punctured lung. Two months later she is now back at home, not paralyzed, and beginning to function somewhat on her own again with help. My father knows it is time to move to a retirement facility, my mother refuses. My father is patient and cautious and for the 2 months she was in the hospital and in skilled care did just fine on his own. Now that she is again at home he is about done in trying to be her caregiver as are my wife and I. She just will not take care, be cautious, and listen to "rules" put forth to avoid another fall and re-injury or new injury. What does one do with a mother that just suddenly won't listen? What does one do with a situation where one parent will do the other one in with caregiving duties. How does one "teach" an elderly parent to slow down and be careful? Wow....sorry to share such stress but this is all new for me and I don't really know how best to approach the fact that if you don't exercise more caution you will end up out of your home and not in a retirement setting but in a nursing facility. Any input is appreciated. Someone must have been here and dealt with a similar situation. Thanks.