mountainsoft
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Moving her to the assisted living place was one of the most stressful thing I had to go through
It's difficult, but you did the right thing.
I went through something similar a couple years ago when my mom had a stroke. She had stopped speaking to anyone for over 20 years, so the stroke was a shocking way to reconnect. Thankfully, my mom was the one who brought up assisted living, but my wife and I still had the responsibility of checking out different facilities and getting her moved in. Mom didn't even want to see it first, saying she wouldn't be happy with any of them so it didn't matter. I think we chose well from the various options, but it still took mom well over a year to adjust. She was rather angry for a while that she couldn't go back home, but we were finally able to fix up her house and get it sold. Once the house was gone I think she could finally accept where she is.
I still struggle myself, wishing something better for my mom than that tiny 300 square foot studio apartment she lives in now. She has regained most all of her mobility and her speech and is still mentally sharp. Some days I start thinking she would be fine living on her own, then one little situation will happen that reminds me why I'm glad she has people watching out for her, preparing meals, etc. It's still ridiculous how expensive it is for such a tiny little apartment (smaller than most motel rooms!).
It's sad that she ended up there, but the reality is she could have died a couple years ago. So we're getting some time to reconnect after so many years apart.