W2R
Moderator Emeritus
The only difference between facing life alone after a divorce, and facing life alone after an entire life single is duration.
True, though in my case I feel an appreciation for solitude that I never had before my marriage.
In either case, you have to do your best to deal with a situation that you may not have chosen.
I also object to the reference to fantasies of a swinger lifestyle. For one thing, the term is mis-applied. A man who wants entree into swinger events needs to have a woman to offer.
I hadn't thought of that. I think that you are probably right, though I assumed that Rich meant a sexually free and very active lifestyle rather than joining swingers' groups. I still don't think that sex is a major motivation for divorce. I could be wrong! It wasn't in our case.
For another, most older men who find themselves divorced did not desire it, but had it thrust on them by a woman who had her own sometimes inscrutable reasons for wanting out.
Men are from Mars, women are from Venus. I could go on, but that can get really tedious, really fast.
The people on this board are very cautious. I don't think any of us needs to be reminded that it would be nice to have a dependable, companionable life partner, especially as one gets older.
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That's for sure, though some of us do not equate "dependable, companionable life partner" with being legally married by the state, with all the concomitant financial entanglements.