exnavynuke
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Now, there may be more than what I've read involved here, but I'm going to summarize what it "sounds" (to me from the info posted) like happened from her point of view (with some "interpretation" of how it could come across:
Woman, with aspirations elsewhere but who works hard and competently at her job, recognizes that multiple employees at the company are allowed to work part-time. She realizes that if she shifted to part-time as well, her quality of life would increase (less time commuting, more time for other pursuits, etc).
Upon realizing this, she gets up the nerve to ask for just such an arrangement and explains some of the ways it would benefit her quality of life (less hectic week so she can be more well-rested, spend less time in traffic, etc) and is told "we don't do part-time". She responds to "we don't allow part-time" with something along the lines of "oh, I thought from seeing the people such as Ray working part-time that it was something we offer" and is told "he's been here a long time and you're not him" and she recognizes that she's apparently also not considered worth getting the good deal as "the older woman getting the special treatment too". Apparently the company is only willing to accommodate what makes "some" people's lives better/more convenient and a young single woman isn't special enough for such treatment like the older man is afforded or the older married woman.
From the story however, I have no indication that she didn't take that final answer "sorry, you're not him" as an affront etc, and she just could have thought to herself "oh well, at least I asked". However, if I worked for a company for years, with no negative marks on my employment record, and saw multiple people getting special treatment that I was being denied, I know I wouldn't feel exceptionally valued as an employee by such a company. Especially if their "policy" seemed to be "most of ya'll can't do this, except for the people we really like or value".
Sorry Ray, but to me your post comes across as you being the one sounding pretty entitled... how dare she want what you have? Doesn't she realize that even asking for a deal as good as you have could jeopardize your good situation? How dare she feel entitled to what you're entitled to?? Only two of you get this good deal and no one else should ask for it or mention it dangit!
Woman, with aspirations elsewhere but who works hard and competently at her job, recognizes that multiple employees at the company are allowed to work part-time. She realizes that if she shifted to part-time as well, her quality of life would increase (less time commuting, more time for other pursuits, etc).
Upon realizing this, she gets up the nerve to ask for just such an arrangement and explains some of the ways it would benefit her quality of life (less hectic week so she can be more well-rested, spend less time in traffic, etc) and is told "we don't do part-time". She responds to "we don't allow part-time" with something along the lines of "oh, I thought from seeing the people such as Ray working part-time that it was something we offer" and is told "he's been here a long time and you're not him" and she recognizes that she's apparently also not considered worth getting the good deal as "the older woman getting the special treatment too". Apparently the company is only willing to accommodate what makes "some" people's lives better/more convenient and a young single woman isn't special enough for such treatment like the older man is afforded or the older married woman.
From the story however, I have no indication that she didn't take that final answer "sorry, you're not him" as an affront etc, and she just could have thought to herself "oh well, at least I asked". However, if I worked for a company for years, with no negative marks on my employment record, and saw multiple people getting special treatment that I was being denied, I know I wouldn't feel exceptionally valued as an employee by such a company. Especially if their "policy" seemed to be "most of ya'll can't do this, except for the people we really like or value".
Sorry Ray, but to me your post comes across as you being the one sounding pretty entitled... how dare she want what you have? Doesn't she realize that even asking for a deal as good as you have could jeopardize your good situation? How dare she feel entitled to what you're entitled to?? Only two of you get this good deal and no one else should ask for it or mention it dangit!
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