Sheryl,
I/we are Washingtonians, too and we know something about the system. (We also know something about lupus, but we aren't going to go there.)
First, DO NOT FILL OUT THAT QUESTIONNAIRE again!! NEVER, EVER!! If you do, it will be in the record everywhere, forever. If you ever think there may be a reason to do so (and I don't think so), ask to do a draft or a dry run. Your agent can do this for you. DO NOT have it submitted for an official judgement.
I have always heard that owners can participate in their company's group plan even if the company is not doing any business anymore. There was a post here long ago where someone was keeping their company active just to keep their group insurance.
If you were an employee in Washington, you could separate from the company, maintain your health insurance through COBRA for 18 months, then get an individual pollicy WITHOUT filling out the dreaded form. No exclusion for pre-existing conditions. (We couldn't do this because of a technicality. I had been working in WA through an agency with a business office in NY state. I could not convert because, even though we were all healthy at the time, we were outside the primary coverage area of the health insurance company--so we were told. We certainly were, although it is not clear that our state insurance commissioner would agree that we could be excluded. Never mind. We are OK today. The wife has a job with benefits now.)
I understand that lupus can be aggravated or triggered by stress. Worth thinking about.
heycori has some good advice. You will help yourself by becoming your own expert on the disease. A friend's daughter had a rare disease. He became an expert by subscribing to Grateful Med, but I see that service has been supreceded by the following:
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/services/igm.html
In WA, you have access to the UW School of Medicine. You could do a lot worse.
Best of luck to you.
Please keep us informed.
Ed