FinanceDude
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How about our women members?
What works for them?
Ha
Micromanaging their spouse/SO?
How about our women members?
What works for them?
Ha
Looks like the ER board once again succeeds in defanging, or even re-defining what is frequently tough and destabilizing for others. I always though mid-life crisis meant affairs, divorce and upheaval.
But apparently it's new cars, motorcycles and pianos.
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OK, so I feel just a LITTLE embarrassed about being light-hearted. But there are three points I'd like to make in my defense. 1) These were times in my life that I WAS seriously contemplating my place in the world. That's why I ended up changing my place of residence and/or place of employment. 2) For some reason, these times also seemed like the right time to indulge myself. Looking back, it is hard to understand why there would be this connection between making big changes in my life and buying something, but there it is. 3) Self-deprecating humor is a defense mechanism - it is much safer to make fun of some questionable things that I did in the past than to revisit the feelings that were present at the time.
Looks like the ER board once again succeeds in defanging, or even re-defining what is frequently tough and destabilizing for others. I always though mid-life crisis meant affairs, divorce and upheaval.
But apparently it's new cars, motorcycles and pianos.
How about our women members?
What works for them?
Ha
Re #2, I asked earlier if the OP could identify what had made him happy in the past or what he thought might do so now. Indulging oneself is a form of giving oneself permission to be happy and it can be a huge factor in moving forward. Those are beautiful instruments and I imagine they give you much pleasure.
Looks like the ER board once again succeeds in defanging, or even re-defining what is frequently tough and destabilizing for others. I always though mid-life crisis meant affairs, divorce and upheaval.
But apparently it's new cars, motorcycles and pianos.
How about our women members?
What works for them?
Ha
Vodka.
Vodka.
I didn't have a midlife crisis - it wasn't in the budget.
I think mid life crises is a nudge from your soul to do something that makes your heart happy
I think mid life crises is a nudge from your soul to do something that makes your heart happy .
Do any of you feel you went thru a midlife crisis where you didn’t know what you wanted to do, but you just wanted to do something different?
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I think mid life crises is a nudge from your soul to do something that makes your heart happy I cannot imagine doing the same things year after year....what a boring way to live...for me...
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Nice looking car after 13 years. Either you have really pampered it, or used Photoshop.
Nice looking car after 13 years. Either you have really pampered it, or used Photoshop.
Photoshop vac...
I had a midlife crisis 13 years ago at the age of 45. Just gave the result a spring cleaning.
Mod edit; Indeed a wonderful post, but copyright rules protect the content (see Gumby's sticky here). The original post is here, behind a paywall that allows a few free views.By LAURA A. MUNSON
Published: July 31, 2009
Sure, you have your marital issues, but on the whole you feel so self-satisfied about how things have worked out that you would never, in your wildest nightmares, think you would hear these words from your husband one fine summer day: “I don’t love you anymore. I’m not sure I ever did. I’m moving out. The kids will understand. They’ll want me to be happy.”
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And I saw what had been missing: pride. He’d lost pride in himself. Maybe that’s what happens when our egos take a hit in midlife and we realize we’re not as young and golden anymore.
My husband had become lost in the myth. But he found his way out. We’ve since had the hard conversations. In fact, he encouraged me to write about our ordeal. To help other couples who arrive at this juncture in life. People who feel scared and stuck. Who believe their temporary feelings are permanent. Who see an easy out, and think they can escape.
My husband tried to strike a deal. Blame me for his pain. Unload his feelings of personal disgrace onto me.
But I ducked. And I waited. And it worked.