aja8888
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I'm 78...running out of colleagues to visit. And also running out of old friends and classmates. If you like them, spend some time with them. It will not hurt.
When they ask what you do all day, ask what they do on weekends. Then reply, "That's what I do all day."
I roughly laid out my life - spending a lot more time of self care (exercising - at least an hour a day hike while listening to audio books)...
For the first couple of months after I retired I'd get text invites to a weekly after work get together at a local restaurant. It was a mix of active workers and retirees. I had never socialized with any of them outside of work before and it made no sense to me to start now since the majority of the conversation was going to be work related. It struck me as very odd that any retiree would want to participate in something like that. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in knowing what's happening at work since I left. I do keep up with a few ex-coworkers who I shared hobbies with, but we don't talk about work. One year in and I have no idea how things are going inside the company, the status of my old job, how projects I was working on panned out, etc. And I don't care.
For the first couple of months after I retired I'd get text invites to a weekly after work get together at a local restaurant. It was a mix of active workers and retirees. I had never socialized with any of them outside of work before and it made no sense to me to start now since the majority of the conversation was going to be work related. It struck me as very odd that any retiree would want to participate in something like that. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in knowing what's happening at work since I left. I do keep up with a few ex-coworkers who I shared hobbies with, but we don't talk about work. One year in and I have no idea how things are going inside the company, the status of my old job, how projects I was working on panned out, etc. And I don't care.
After I retired, I made a conscious effort not to keep in contact with anyone from my career. Took some effort, but just don't want to know anything about their work and all the complaints that go with it.
I was speaking to a guy who is 74 and has been retired from his job as a managing partner of a local law firm. He stated that no one looks at you in the same way now. I stated so what......
Exactly! I'm 13 months in and only keep in communication via text to a couple of former co-workers. One co-worker is still the keeper of sporting event tickets and still keeps me in the loop! Other than that, I really couldn't give a tiny rats a$$ about anything at Mega Corp. I have better things to think about.For the first couple of months after I retired I'd get text invites to a weekly after work get together at a local restaurant. It was a mix of active workers and retirees. I had never socialized with any of them outside of work before and it made no sense to me to start now since the majority of the conversation was going to be work related. It struck me as very odd that any retiree would want to participate in something like that. I have absolutely no interest whatsoever in knowing what's happening at work since I left. I do keep up with a few ex-coworkers who I shared hobbies with, but we don't talk about work. One year in and I have no idea how things are going inside the company, the status of my old job, how projects I was working on panned out, etc. And I don't care.
Besides him, I encountered others and they seemed to look upon me as a zoo animal. One (predictably) asked: WHAT DO YOU DO ALL DAY?!?!? I roughly laid out my life - spending a lot more time of self care (exercising - at least an hour a day hike while listening to audio books), reading, diving into things I never had time to do while working, tending to my HS senior, helping with my husband's business by doing bookkeeping, cooking more fresh meals instead of eating out. Most of them looked at me like I was from Mars.
I was speaking to a guy who is 74 and has been retired from his job as a managing partner of a local law firm. He stated that no one looks at you in the same way now. I stated so what......
When they ask what you do all day, ask what they do on weekends. Then reply, "That's what I do all day."
There are people that what life is really about and some just will never be able to leave a structured life.
I know so many in my field of business that just can't walk away for whatever reason. None that I know that have 40 to 50 years in need to extra money but just can't lead a life without having a job. They really don't have a life other than thinking that no one else can do their job better than they can. I honestly think that is their reason not to retire.