He was going to make the hour and forty minute drive home to go to a Paranormal tour of Fort Wilmington that the Mrs and daughter bought tickets for. I thought this would be a perfect time for me to get updated on how the first semester freshman in college was going. He had complained he wasn't sleeping well in the dorm -Yet he came home on Saturday. I wasn't surprised as the girlfriend is just across the hall.
My wife cornered him and asked him about the 'History exam'? I am always the last to hear about anything like that as I have been known to overreact. Im sure he said "dont tell dad". Somewhere In that dark huge cement building I got him alone and he confessed he failed to pay attention to the study guide. I said that study guide is like being handed the keys to the castle. Further I told him to 'get on it' and I reminded him Cs 'wont cut it'. That was all I said. Im proud of myself . I controlled my urge to say "what the heck were you thinking" and to go into a lengthy lecture- Hard to believe 63 year old Ray has developed old parent patience. Ive accepted that he is going to have to learn somethings for himself - just like I did so many years ago.
His experience in college to date is very different then mine Yet in many ways similar. I went to college "on a wing, a prayer, a grant and a loan". There was no stability at home. - to this day I am still surprised that I managed to pull it off. He on the other hand is fully funded with my credit card and my old jalopy. The Mrs and I are there for him and involved. When I met my college advisor I believe he quickly determined that I would benefit from a dose of reading the classics - The trouble was that is was an accounting major. My son is much like me in that way. If you asked him who or what Pollyanna was I would bet any amount he would not know. There is no question liberal arts courses he takes will no doubt do him good. I am sure of one thing It would be a challenge for him to read 13 books in 15 weeks.
He left early afternoon on Sunday, My snoopy daughter said his girlfriend had texted him "When are you coming back?". I could offer some advise there too but I wont. I see a change in him, more engaged and thoughtful (x the study guide incident). My wife proofread the most English paper and actually said "It wasn't bad'.
I can't help but wonder what changes are yet to come?
My wife cornered him and asked him about the 'History exam'? I am always the last to hear about anything like that as I have been known to overreact. Im sure he said "dont tell dad". Somewhere In that dark huge cement building I got him alone and he confessed he failed to pay attention to the study guide. I said that study guide is like being handed the keys to the castle. Further I told him to 'get on it' and I reminded him Cs 'wont cut it'. That was all I said. Im proud of myself . I controlled my urge to say "what the heck were you thinking" and to go into a lengthy lecture- Hard to believe 63 year old Ray has developed old parent patience. Ive accepted that he is going to have to learn somethings for himself - just like I did so many years ago.
His experience in college to date is very different then mine Yet in many ways similar. I went to college "on a wing, a prayer, a grant and a loan". There was no stability at home. - to this day I am still surprised that I managed to pull it off. He on the other hand is fully funded with my credit card and my old jalopy. The Mrs and I are there for him and involved. When I met my college advisor I believe he quickly determined that I would benefit from a dose of reading the classics - The trouble was that is was an accounting major. My son is much like me in that way. If you asked him who or what Pollyanna was I would bet any amount he would not know. There is no question liberal arts courses he takes will no doubt do him good. I am sure of one thing It would be a challenge for him to read 13 books in 15 weeks.
He left early afternoon on Sunday, My snoopy daughter said his girlfriend had texted him "When are you coming back?". I could offer some advise there too but I wont. I see a change in him, more engaged and thoughtful (x the study guide incident). My wife proofread the most English paper and actually said "It wasn't bad'.
I can't help but wonder what changes are yet to come?
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