Good stuff TT! Well, I am seeing bits of myself in all of these responses, thanks for all of them. There was a volunteer organization I was with for about 5 years that I came to learn, even after earning a volunteer of the year award once, valued how big someones wallet is more than how big their heart, hard work and dedication is. Once I figured this out, (as well as tiring of the oft manipulative and overused ‘but it’s for the kids’ phrase) and they figured out that I don’t play the ‘what’s in your wallet’ game, it was adios to that bunch. The rank and file folks were great! The cliquish manipulative upper echelon, not so much. This left a bad impression and no volunteering for a long time.
Fast forward 20 wiser years I decided, especially after Hurricane Harvey, to give it another shot, this time in disaster response. This time things are much more on my terms. I find that I am much better at ‘being on the scene in the thick of it’ than being at ‘command central’. Just not much of a schmoozer. Same as before, rank and file are great and sometimes upper echelon, not so much. I just try to soak up the good stuff and ignore (within reason) the not so good stuff.
The point in all of this, for me at least? Learn your strengths, Learn your weaknesses, let your yes be yes and your no be no. Know exploitation when you see it, call them on it, and walk away when your gut says that’s enough. Simple stuff I know, but it has served me well...