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I would not cut out a child no matter what. I see relatives work hard for nieces and nephews. I don't do that but a child is different.
Yes and it’s often mental illness. Happy and well adjusted adult children just don’t cut off their parents unless the circumstances are extreme. No parent is perfect but I’ve seen situations where adult children blame their parents for innocuous things.
Maybe another option would be to give money with a warm hand rather than a cold hand. Sharing assets that you will not need in the hearse with the children that want to participate in a family vacation, or funding grandchildren's' 529 plan might help reduce that end of life nest egg.
If the wayward child wants to opt out of those opportunities, that is their choice...plus you may be able to see the joy in receiving those gifts while you are alive.
Her beliefs wouldn’t make me cut her out, but if she wants nothing to do with us then I would redirect her inheritance to charity, given in her name.
Yes and it’s often mental illness. Happy and well adjusted adult children just don’t cut off their parents unless the circumstances are extreme. No parent is perfect but I’ve seen situations where adult children blame their parents for innocuous things.
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OTOH, they bad mouthed you on social media. Who do they think they are? Prince Harry and Megan? But, if they didn't do it in some far removed country and didn't get paid a nice bundle for the TV rights, I would let that pass.
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If a child did not want to be burdened with a relationship with me, I see no reason to burden the child with an inheritance.
An adult "child" is not entitled to an inheritance.
If anyone is considering disinheriting a close relative, definitely talk it over with a good lawyer. You need do it right, even so, lawsuits can easily happen - especially if the money is significant.
My in laws thought correctly that my sister in law was horrible with money. They bequeathed all their estate to my wife with the provision that she hold half for the benefit of SIL to be given to her at my wife's discretion.
We have for over a decade given SIL an allowance but held on to the bulk of what would have been her part of the inheritance which was high 5 digits.
If SIL had directly inherited the money it would be long gone. In the wind.
Thankfully both my adult daughters are responsible but if one of them weren't I would have no problem doing what my in laws did.