PandaBear
Recycles dryer sheets
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My husband has a theory (that has anecdotally proven true) that the fancier/more expensive the wedding, the shorter the marriage. Fwiw - our wedding was outside with a small brunch afterwards... <$5k including the honeymoon to Hawaii. Since we got married in my home town we spent another $3k on a big party in his home town.
Dh and I married in 1991. Our wedding was probably 15K - 20K for everything (dress, ring, reception, rehearsal dinner, honeymoon, etc), so about 30-40K today. Large families for both of us (dh is one of 8 kids and the youngest) and many friends. Dh paid for both rings and honeymoon. My in-laws the rehearsal dinner and my parents the reception and after reception party.....very traditional.
It was a fantastic time. The best thing.....we had a very unusual photography arrangement for that time.....we paid for all the film and received everything....all the negatives. My mom had the photographer take a picture of every table with the guests. I enjoy looking back at those pictures....so many people are gone now. Everyone dressed up and smiling. It’s a treasure.
Now, we’re only 30 years in, so maybe ours won’t stick?
Now times are different, but dh is still traditional. He expects to host his daughters wedding. We have 40K put aside for her and 20K each for our sons (because we know now expenses are often shared). I don’t know if we will need it all, but we have it set aside. I figure it’s proportional to the wedding we had 30 years ago.