Chuckanut
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We just don’t know when or where the right person will pop up into our lives.
We just don’t know when or where the right person will pop up into our lives.
Within about 3 months of my MIL's death, my 82 year old FIL had women in line waiting on him. His biggest problem these days is trying to remember which one of his girlfriends he told he was going out with on that particular day. Right now, he has 3 steady girlfriends, but he says others are waiting. Quite the ladies man.
Within about 3 months of my MIL's death, my 82 year old FIL had women in line waiting on him. His biggest problem these days is trying to remember which one of his girlfriends he told he was going out with on that particular day. Right now, he has 3 steady girlfriends, but he says others are waiting. Quite the ladies man.
Based on online discussions I've read (by women, mostly) there are two types of elderly women with regard to men:
1) Been there, done that, don't need or want another T-shirt.
2) Gotta have a guy, no matter how dilapidated; my social status depends on it!
+1You will never find anybody to replace your late wife but you may find another nice relationship .
I've never posted about this on our forum, but I'm a member of the widow/widower club too.
It is safe to say that life doesn't go as we planned all of the time.
After a couple years of unsuccessfully trying to help my wife of 39 years fight cancer, and three years of trying to be happy in my new existence as a widower, I'm somehow in a relationship without really looking for that.
My plan was to go it alone, try to be there for the people still in my life, and maybe even have some fun along the way.
I was occasionally socializing with a long time woman friend. Mostly going on long bicycle rides with a local bike club that she belonged to, but occasionally making a dinner or having a beer together. We were both alone, and it seemed like a positive for both of us.
Anyway, we are now a couple. WTH. I honestly didn't see it coming. Silly naive man.
It is very strange to me. Bittersweet like life. I'm sad, because it is another step of moving on from my wife. I'm also happy, because I thoroughly enjoy being with this woman.
There is something calming about being in a relationship at my age. None of the stress or expectations that I felt as a twenty year old.
Establishing a career, marriage, parents, buying houses. How did my wife and I manage it?
I figure if two older people want to be together, they should be. If it doesn't work out, I've had a little more happiness in my life for that time period. We seem amazingly compatible, so I'm hopeful it will work out.
Take care all my fellow widows and widowers out there. I hope you can find some moments of happiness, as a single person, or with someone new if that happens.
JP
I've never posted about this on our forum, but I'm a member of the widow/widower club too.
It is safe to say that life doesn't go as we planned all of the time.
After a couple years of unsuccessfully trying to help my wife of 39 years fight cancer, and three years of trying to be happy in my new existence as a widower, I'm somehow in a relationship without really looking for that.
My plan was to go it alone, try to be there for the people still in my life, and maybe even have some fun along the way.
I was occasionally socializing with a long time woman friend. Mostly going on long bicycle rides with a local bike club that she belonged to, but occasionally making a dinner or having a beer together. We were both alone, and it seemed like a positive for both of us.
Anyway, we are now a couple. WTH. I honestly didn't see it coming. Silly naive man.
It is very strange to me. Bittersweet like life. I'm sad, because it is another step of moving on from my wife. I'm also happy, because I thoroughly enjoy being with this woman.
There is something calming about being in a relationship at my age. None of the stress or expectations that I felt as a twenty year old.
Establishing a career, marriage, parents, buying houses. How did my wife and I manage it?
I figure if two older people want to be together, they should be. If it doesn't work out, I've had a little more happiness in my life for that time period. We seem amazingly compatible, so I'm hopeful it will work out.
Take care all my fellow widows and widowers out there. I hope you can find some moments of happiness, as a single person, or with someone new if that happens.
JP
Anyway, we are now a couple. WTH. I honestly didn't see it coming. Silly naive man.
JP
If I ever get to the point where a partner becomes more front and center, maybe I would need to visit a barber and wear something other than flannel shirts and jeans. Being in the Hermit mode doesn't help in the "chick magnet" arena, even with the widower label.
I suppose that may be true. BUT if you do attract someone "just as you are" I'd say she's probably a keeper. Being who you are is a lot easier than being someone else. YMMV
Its been over 11 years since DW died. The only change is my house is getting closer to being done. I had a couple of widow ladies out for a visit a couple weeks ago. Long time friends but no romantic interest. A couple women from Church have shown interest along the way, but nothing that progressed any farther than lite conversation.I suppose that may be true. BUT if you do attract someone "just as you are" I'd say she's probably a keeper. Being who you are is a lot easier than being someone else. YMMV
Humm... I am not sure which category I would fit into.My personal observation has been that men, assuming they're not absolutely repulsive, only go without a partner because they don't really want one.
Be yourself. Unless you can be Batman. Then, always be Batman.
Humm... I am not sure which category I would fit into.
This is the only forum I hang out on. I have never tried on line dating, so maybe I do fit in the latter category.I seriously doubt it's the first one. (You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?
(You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?
I had to google that. And now I need brain bleach!
I didn't Google it. Kind of glad I didn't!I had to google that. And now I need brain bleach!
I seriously doubt it's the first one. (You don't also hang out on forums where they talk about Chads and Staceys and Beckys, do you?
I did.I didn't Google it. Kind of glad I didn't!