Long, philosophical ramble.
You know how Google news feed sometimes sends you along unaccustomed paths depending on your clicks? Well, somehow I wound up on the receiving end of a lot of articles about climbing the Himalayan giants - I am now familiar with the names Gasherbrum, Broad Peak, K2, as well as Everest.
This despite the fact I am afraid of heights, dislike the cold, do not have enough money for climbing, do not particularly like barren, windswept landscapes, and am not in any kind of shape or training to ascend tall mountains. In fact, I will never climb a Himalayan peak.
I keep clicking, though, because I find the motivations and rationales of the adventurers who do fascinating. One trope that keeps recurring is "exceeding my limits." Again and again an adventurer brings this up, and the phrase apparently holds tremendous meaning for him or her. In fact the climbers (and others) keep pushing their limits further - climbing without oxygen, climbing with no attendants, climbing in one swift ascent, skiing back downhill. And the same rationale applies to many other situations, adventurous or not. Run a half-marathon. Run a whole marathon. Run an ultra-marathon. Leave security behind and take a chance on a whole new business or life. There are many testimonies as to how "exceeding one's limits" has led to tremendous achievements and personal growth.
But the concept is not for me. I turn the phrase over in my mind, and find no appeal, no end result that calls to me. The question that always comes up for me is "to what end?" I do have goals - but they never involve "exceeding my limits." Instead, I find myself gradually drawing closer to a different concept (or is it?), that of "trusting myself." I used to think I had to force myself to exercise, or adopt a certain way of eating, or follow certain habits of social interaction or push myself towards certain waypoints to achieve business success.
I have been recovering from a bad cold. I didn't exercise and instead told myself every day, "resume exercising when you want to." Finally, with very little effort, it felt right to start again. I took it very easy. And the next time added a few more minutes, but again keeping it easy. Very, very soon, back to the regular schedule. I trusted myself to start exercising again. I trust myself to socialize at will, without telling myself "to get out there and attend that party." I trust the goals I set even if they don't involve finding my new limits.
This is not to say that one approach is superior to another. I remain intrigued by the concept of "exceeding one's limits." In fact I think for many people the two concepts, "exceeding one's limits" and "trusting oneself" are one and the same. Somewhere I read this quote:
To me, that example epitomizes NOT trusting oneself. And again I find myself asking "to what end?" But I think the gravitational pull of "exceeding one's limits" sweeps most other concepts into itself. I am in the minority.
Any other thoughts on this? Are the two concepts the same in your minds?
You know how Google news feed sometimes sends you along unaccustomed paths depending on your clicks? Well, somehow I wound up on the receiving end of a lot of articles about climbing the Himalayan giants - I am now familiar with the names Gasherbrum, Broad Peak, K2, as well as Everest.
This despite the fact I am afraid of heights, dislike the cold, do not have enough money for climbing, do not particularly like barren, windswept landscapes, and am not in any kind of shape or training to ascend tall mountains. In fact, I will never climb a Himalayan peak.
I keep clicking, though, because I find the motivations and rationales of the adventurers who do fascinating. One trope that keeps recurring is "exceeding my limits." Again and again an adventurer brings this up, and the phrase apparently holds tremendous meaning for him or her. In fact the climbers (and others) keep pushing their limits further - climbing without oxygen, climbing with no attendants, climbing in one swift ascent, skiing back downhill. And the same rationale applies to many other situations, adventurous or not. Run a half-marathon. Run a whole marathon. Run an ultra-marathon. Leave security behind and take a chance on a whole new business or life. There are many testimonies as to how "exceeding one's limits" has led to tremendous achievements and personal growth.
But the concept is not for me. I turn the phrase over in my mind, and find no appeal, no end result that calls to me. The question that always comes up for me is "to what end?" I do have goals - but they never involve "exceeding my limits." Instead, I find myself gradually drawing closer to a different concept (or is it?), that of "trusting myself." I used to think I had to force myself to exercise, or adopt a certain way of eating, or follow certain habits of social interaction or push myself towards certain waypoints to achieve business success.
I have been recovering from a bad cold. I didn't exercise and instead told myself every day, "resume exercising when you want to." Finally, with very little effort, it felt right to start again. I took it very easy. And the next time added a few more minutes, but again keeping it easy. Very, very soon, back to the regular schedule. I trusted myself to start exercising again. I trust myself to socialize at will, without telling myself "to get out there and attend that party." I trust the goals I set even if they don't involve finding my new limits.
This is not to say that one approach is superior to another. I remain intrigued by the concept of "exceeding one's limits." In fact I think for many people the two concepts, "exceeding one's limits" and "trusting oneself" are one and the same. Somewhere I read this quote:
for example, if you were rock climbing and the next piece to grab was too far away, do you give up, or try with all your might to get there? To trust yourself in that situation would be to try and get to the next step higher and trust yourself to get there.
To me, that example epitomizes NOT trusting oneself. And again I find myself asking "to what end?" But I think the gravitational pull of "exceeding one's limits" sweeps most other concepts into itself. I am in the minority.
Any other thoughts on this? Are the two concepts the same in your minds?