jollystomper
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So how does asking about one's ethnicity, etc. promote discrimination? If they're already being discriminated against due to the color of their skin, why would asking their ethnicity change anything?
And you specifically mention people of color. What about someone who is caucasian? By your statement above, it is implicit that it is less okay to ask a person of color rather than a caucasian. That sets artificial barriers based on skin color. How is this not inherently promoting discrimination?
In my view, the issue is really that many times questions are asked, not so much to find out information, but to make presumptions and/or to confirm assumptions. So one finding about where someone is from, from an ethnic standpoint, can be seem as them trying to determine what assumptions they need to make about that person - instead of trying to find out what is unique about that person. And when a response is received that does not make the presumption or assumption, rather than learn, the questioner tries to stick to the presumption/assumption.
One example: DW once met a woman in a social situation, who after a few minutes asked DW about her background. When DW mentioned it, the woman started saying how great that was, and how she admired a particular singer of that same ethnic background. DW replied that actually she did not like that style of music so she did not care for that singer, she preferred classical music instead. The woman could not figure out why in the world DW would not like that singer, she just assumed that, since they were "similar" that she would.
This is one example, but, since DW has looks that make it hard for people to discern her background from sight (and assume all varieties), she gets this type of situation several times a month. Fortunately she is a people person, and has the patience to deal with it.
BTW, this can happen to someone regardless of their skin color or ethnic background. I would suggest that it has happened to minorities more frequently.