seraphim
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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Or how about: I was forced into early retirement.
Don't have to say you forced yourself.
Don't have to say you forced yourself.
Oh - looks like I took your advice before I even read it!I'm not retired yet, so take this fwiw, but it sounds like some of you guys (OP and others) are too worried about what other people think or what your image is in their eyes. My advice is don't twist yourself in a pretzel to figure out the "right" thing to say, so that no one's feathers get ruffled and you look like a great guy. Just tell the truth and let them have whatever reaction they are going to have (which as someone else pointed out, may be none at all). Trying to manage other people's reactions to you and impressions of you is a huge waste of energy. Just tell the simple truth: "I'm retired." The end. Whatever their reactions are to that statement, that is their business and their responsibility. You ought to enjoy the fact that you're retired, not feel like you have to hide it.
I have just noticed in several cases that my "I'm retired" response may have caused discomfort or certainly something other than a good feeling for the hearer. I just try to evaluate the situation and be sensitive to it and to figure out a "first do no harm" sort of approach.
I haven't yet had anybody probe me...
"I'm a male stripper over at Sunnyland Rest Home..."
How do you explain your ER situation to old friends or new people you meet?
If one is feeling mischevious:
1. "I'm unemployed." Let it go at that. If there are further inquiries make up an outlandish story.
2. "I just got out of prison and haven't found a job yet. Can I list you as a reference?"
3. "I got FIRED."
Other suggestions?
After a round of golf, the question came up. I replied that I had recently retired. The person asking has recently ERed too. Next question: what did you DO? When I replied that I was a physician, she responded "but how can you do that, physicians don't retire!"
It is clear that we have a lot of education to do!
"I wanted to try something new, so I'm now a self-employed investment manager."
I'm currently taking a break from working - you know how it is.
"My current wealth management position consumes all of my time."
...an "independent consultant". When they ask him in what area, he says "whatever area I choose".
Q: What do you do?
A: About what?
Q: What do you do?
A: About what?
After a round of golf, the question came up. I replied that I had recently retired. The person asking has recently ERed too. Next question: what did you DO? When I replied that I was a physician, she responded "but how can you do that, physicians don't retire!"
It is clear that we have a lot of education to do!