Bit late to the party here, here's my perspective anyway - It will sound familiar by now.
When I was more or less 25 (34 now), there was the following situation:
- I had no debt, no assets, nearing a PhD
- Parents were married, worth about roughly $2M in today money
- Grandparents well off (another $1M or so at one side with parent only child, >$5M but don't really know on the other side with 4 children).
Here's roughly what happened in the next 5 years:
- Parents got divorced
- Got completely cut off from one side of the family
As a result, any likely inheritance coming my way now will be 'a bit' vs. 'very sizeable'. And it may be in 30 years, or tomorrow. Or the 'cut off' side will leave me money anyway - no way to know.
Anyway, here is what I realized: basically
the inheritance factor is very much out of your control, so you can't plan for it.
What I did do: I went for the high-stress high-paying job because I wanted to be (economically) free as soon as possible. Also didn't see the point of working 40 hours a week for the rest of my life, when I could also work 60 hours and 'graduate' to economic freedom before I was 40. Also shifted careers and move geography, but that was serendipity along the way, not much planning. By happenstance I picked up alot of valuable social skills and a fun network of people, both of which improved my life in a big way.
All this to say: Act as if no inheritance will be there. If you do well in your career and manage to build some wealth by LBYM, start sharing that fact with your parents. It will likely make them proud. Stop there.
Do not start up conversations about inheriting and estate planning yourself, it's intrusive and can damage your relation with them. Do however show your own interest in asset management by showing what you are doing with your money (hopefully succesfully!).
In my case this lead to me managing the finances of the 'non cut-off' side of the family. Basically because they believe I know what I am doing better than they do, and trust my character to handle these things with integrity.
In addition, professional skills you pick up in the beginning of your career can be very helpful in all sorts of areas in life. So the learning value alone is a big boon. And with any luck you meet a few interesting people along the way.
And just to finish off: Once you start getting financially independent (or free) yourself, you'll notice that your perspective will start to shift, in a good way. The inheritance thoughts will diminish, and move more towards time and enjoying the family you have, while you have it.
... so get cracking on your own financial path