Investing does not require stops.
Handling some stocks does not (necessarily) either.
A trading portfolio, using leverage, cannot be managed without.
A trading portfolio should not be more than 10% of your assets.
A short introduction on how I use stops (better say the system I designed) is given @
http://tradingautomation.blogspot.com/
PS: I concur to most of what has been said before. Stops on thinly traded stocks are triggered by market makers (@ the worst moment for you and best for them, playing the daily vol). Illiquid stocks (given the size of your position) should be avoided anyway. And on the opposite, very large positions for large trading accounts are "manually" monitored..., stop violation is reported by a system and position is VWAPed (Volume Weighted Average Price) by your operator... But this does not affect much the individual trader with a small trading account.
My strategy requires that all stops be "active" on the market with my broker (to have a control on the overall risk given the exposure and therefore a control to avoid margin calls on leveraged accounts), but funny enough it has happened to me that the low be made below the stop (LONG) and that the stop would not be executed, not often but it did happen 2 or 3 times. The broker never provided a satisfactory explaination for that (and refunded the difference). It never happened to me being SHORT (stop limiting upside risk) again no explaination ?
Finally I have made extensive simulations with stops. For example to quote one: instead of having the stop on the market and being executed, having the system reporting @ COB that the stop would have been trigerred that day and instead closing the position at market open the following day. For that specific example, it did not change anything to the global picture. and global returns over the runs.
But globally, stops are dependable. Each of my running accounts has had thousands of stops orders (as they slowly move everyday) and they are 99,9% of the time triggerred according to what you decided. People often have the feeling that they were stopped at the worst moment. There are two factors there: either they do not know how to trade (and they wrongly place the stops) or most of the time if the stop was properly placed it is mainly psychological as backtesting demonstrate where to place stops so that the volat would not concur to "create" the loss.
Well, that's a long and interesting discussion, these were my two cents for today.