Would you cut your kid's inheritance ?
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/m...million-inheritance-11627061416?siteid=yhoof2
https://www.marketwatch.com/story/m...million-inheritance-11627061416?siteid=yhoof2
I would not cut her out. You never know what may happen in the future. We had a child similar to that situation for several years. Would not talk to us. Blamed us for not keeping him out of jail (our attitude: "you do the crime, you do the time"). We knew their residence and phone number, but chose to leave him alone. We never thought about reducing his inheritance. Then one evening out of the blue he calls us, saying he wanted to build a relationship again. We do not agree on some things. But the love is there. He has been very open about his jail time in his work and on social media to counsel and help others, and now tells people "It was nothing my parents did, I was immature and listened to the wrong people".
No guarantees, but I have learned in this situation that the high road is best. By cutting them out completely, you move to their level. They can always choose to refuse the inheritance if you leave it to them. But let them make that decision.
Glad to hear your situation had a happy ending.
Several replies so far seem to assume the daughter is the one who is in the wrong here. Interesting. What if just the opposite is true? What if the parents are the baddies? What if they were super controlling? Abusive? Religious fanatics? Ultra right wing conservatives? Truly toxic influences?
Maybe the daughter grew up and got out in the world and came to realize how bad they really were. Should she be punished for that?
I say no to disinheriting her, at least not with a lot more info than what is given here. We’re only seeing one side of the story and of course the mom thinks she did no wrong. Abusers generally don’t.
Religious fanatics? Ultra right wing conservatives?
I'm with you except for the above. So there's a religion/politics litmus test for who's the goodie and who's the baddie? Sounds like the parents are willing to look around any differences here, but the daughter isn't. If they continually push their values on her that's one thing, and is covered by the controlling part. But to cancel someone because they happen to have different values is another IMO.
It's interesting that you included "ultra right wing conservatives" but not "ultra left wing liberals."Several replies so far seem to assume the daughter is the one who is in the wrong here. Interesting. What if just the opposite is true? What if the parents are the baddies? What if they were super controlling? Abusive? Religious fanatics? Ultra right wing conservatives? Truly toxic influences?