Thanks everybody! I knew I could count on you.
I, more or less, guessed most of your suggestions.
1) Rules: I´ve instructed him on the basic ones to observe. But, for instance, I don´t really wanti him hanging around the house, which would be the case if I wake him up or want him home at reasonable hours. Mine is a smal house, in the sense that´s confortable for 2 person who get along.
2) The dog: We can´t have it bite him as a result of an accident. It´s quite old, pampered and starting to become irritable, scared and unaccostumed to changes. Our culture demands that we should have had the dog restrained. Nobody here would understand that a dog would condition my nephew´s mobility.
3) Chores: We have regular help that does almost everything, and everybody in the family knows it. To suddenly impose on him chores that we don´t do ourselves would give away true purpose of this attitude.
4) Talk: Here is where our culture plays the most part. We aren´t as pragmatic or candid as you. Any sensible talk would be inmediately construed/interpreted in the sense that we don´t want him with us. More so, bearing in mind that my sister would have him with -prima facie- no problems, there is an opinion that his stay in my house is the natural thing. That´s what family is for.... And, to put it mildly, his mother is a bit too touchy and susceptible. I don´want to risk a confrontation with my brother.
5) Making his stay unconfortable: We have used a series of tricks, but he either adapts or doesn´t care. It´s like dealing with an octopus: there is always a tentacle that clings.
The key -unsolvable- points are his unemployment and his girlfriend. More to the point: The real obstacle is the girlfriend, who is a student with at least 2 years left till she gets her law degree and not plannning to go anywhere....
So, for the near future, We´ll have to grin and bear it.
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