RonBoyd
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From what I've read online you should be able to negotiate to ~$40,000 for a new Pacifica Limited or ~$30,000 for a used one, but check latest prices on pacificaforums.com
Whichever one you pick must also have the Advanced SafetyTec package to get all the new safety features you want.
You'll want the Limited trim since it comes with HID headlights (IIRC none of the other trim levels offer HID)
Also, the Pacifica has terrible reliability ratings (26/100 or 1/5 from Consumer Reports) so you'll want to buy Chrysler's MaxCare warranty from either your local dealer or online:
https://www.chryslerwarrantydirect.com
DON'T buy the hybrid...very few are sold & so few dealer techs know how to service them, and the hybrid powertrain has had serious problems (e.g. shutting off at highway speeds)
Hmmm. Food for thought. Good thing I am in no hurry. In fact, I spent an hour or so a few weeks ago thinking about and haven't put any thought of it since. Thanks for the heads-up.
Nevertheless, I still share the OP's quandary.