2002, long pre-ACA, I was suddenly provided with an Early-ER "opportunity", due to the crash of an industry. Late forties, missed any kind of retirement $ from megacorp by a little over a year. Turned out that didn't matter after all, as they terminated the retiree medical $ in stages shortly thereafter. My termination benefits, as I was over age 45 and had many years of credit, included 6 months totally paid HI on the family plan that I was on. And then could run COBRA for 18 months beyond that.
While on the 6 months paid, I researched private HI. Did not look good. DW would not be picked up due to BMI of 30 at that time, even though she was very healthy. I was no problem (then), as I had no conditions, no surgeries ever, no medications, no nothing, perfect! Our kids were put through underwriting with a magnifying glass. Even for the most trivial, coverage of that whatever (though no coverage was needed!) would be excepted for 6 months. Went with Golden Rule, which was bought by UHC not long after. Put DW on COBRA, she was a SAHM, who wanted to go back to work when youngest was in high school for a year or two. She did, and received employer coverage then, went with an HD plan there.
Private HI started out OK, it was a high-deductible policy on me and the kids. No premium increase in the first year. But oh boy, after that, both the $ increases and the ever-shortening time frame between increases became ridiculous. Became obvious that the situation was on the curve to untenable. Joined DW's employer plan, and the kids dropped off one by one when graduating college and getting their own employers coverage.
DW's employer plan was really cheap for worker alone, was subsidized by the plan hitting spouse and family coverage pretty hard. DW's employer has levels of plans, some are low deductible with incredible monthly premiums! She hears people there say things like "oh, I have to have a low deductible, I can't come up with like $500 just like that!!!" Yeah, and as you can imagine, they are paying incredible $ per month every month via payroll withholding for "that $500". Duh! She has tried to point that out to some people, no go, gave up, pushing the rope.
When I went on Medicare, her HD HI premium went waaay down, just the employee again.
Back in the early 2000s, the health care mess was just dawning on a few, so it seemed to me. Most, dare I say near all? people who were being covered by an employer plan were oblivious to the mess. I think many are still oblivious. One slender thread is holding them up out of the monster's jaws.