My wife's grandfather died. Her mother (sole heir) is horrible with money so everything was left in a trust. My wife is great with money and is the executor of the trust. We had great plans to use the money to help her mother out but it seems like this is a horrible way to accomplish it and sounds like it is fantastic way for the lawyer to drain the trust of money. Mother lives in a house owned by grandpa ($100k) and drives a car owned by grandpa ($2k). There is also another house and car. In addition, mother is on medicaid and can only get so much money (about 25K per year including 10K in SocSecurity) before getting kicked off. There is probably around $400K total in property. Mother is a very unhealthy 70 years old.
It sounds to me that every time mother wants a ham sandwich we will pay for it, submit a bill to the trust and the lawyer will give us $2 and keep $75 as a fee (I don't know for sure but I am sure it is somewhat based in fact).
I suggested my wife relinquish the title of executor (or whatever her title is) and just let mother and lawyer handle all of it. Just too much hassle. I really hate to see fees and inflation destroy the money he left. Any extra money given to mother will be completely wasted.
Wife will have another meeting with the lawyer this week and I would like to give her a list of intelligent/important questions to ask. Any suggestions?
It sounds to me that every time mother wants a ham sandwich we will pay for it, submit a bill to the trust and the lawyer will give us $2 and keep $75 as a fee (I don't know for sure but I am sure it is somewhat based in fact).
I suggested my wife relinquish the title of executor (or whatever her title is) and just let mother and lawyer handle all of it. Just too much hassle. I really hate to see fees and inflation destroy the money he left. Any extra money given to mother will be completely wasted.
Wife will have another meeting with the lawyer this week and I would like to give her a list of intelligent/important questions to ask. Any suggestions?