I have been lurking on this site a few months but dreaming of retirement for years. Have been working full time for 38 years while raising three kids. The last twenty years I was blessed with very good pay but at a price of high stress and extensive travel. Prior to the pandemic I traveled weekly and had grown to rationalize the perks of airline and hotel points as a reason to keep going. Have not flown in a year and admit I love being home and now dream everyday of leaving a job I really dislike. Financially we are set no debt with our home and vacation home both paid for. We have been rigid savers and have several million in investment accounts. I have done FIRE Calc and every other tool and all point to no worries even at two times our predicted spend. Professional have run our numbers and say we are right on track. So now the disconnect I am married to a great guy who is 100 percent defined by his job. He suffered a major depression a few years ago when laid off from his work. He also equates retirement with old age and almost giving up on life. He cannot bring himself to acknowledge my desire to retire early at 57. His response is always just give it 5 more years. He will continue to work until he drops. My employer has announced a restructuring and my new role is even less acceptable so I see this as the final signal to be done and hope to leave in the coming weeks. I am sad that I will have to do this without agreement from my spouse but in my assessment it has become a no brainer. Has anyone faced a similar path and any learnings you might share?