Lsbcal
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I find that if I can reduce some of my competitive activities and urges then my anxiety level goes down somewhat. Maybe this is not an issue for some or they actually thrive on competition. Our modern society really does seem to encourage intense competition.
For instance, I was playing on-line chess (on Lichess) and finding the competition was just a little bit too intense. So I stopped playing for awhile and now I am coming back with a better attitude. I'm trying to play against players at or below my rating level and in "casual" instead of rated games. I'm trying to improve my skills through puzzles and to necessarily to improve my rating.
I'm also trying to not win "friendly" arguments. Starting with DW. I'm trying to detect friction earlier and backing away or just dropping the subject.
So assuming you have ER'd and work competition has been eliminated, what have you done to reduce the amount of competition in your life? Or is it not an issue for you?
For instance, I was playing on-line chess (on Lichess) and finding the competition was just a little bit too intense. So I stopped playing for awhile and now I am coming back with a better attitude. I'm trying to play against players at or below my rating level and in "casual" instead of rated games. I'm trying to improve my skills through puzzles and to necessarily to improve my rating.
I'm also trying to not win "friendly" arguments. Starting with DW. I'm trying to detect friction earlier and backing away or just dropping the subject.
So assuming you have ER'd and work competition has been eliminated, what have you done to reduce the amount of competition in your life? Or is it not an issue for you?