lazygood4nothinbum
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ok, this is a good one. a few months back, after about a year and a half search, i found my biological father. the guy who abandoned me. he's going to be 80 this year. i haven't seen him in about 15 years. he's very happy that i found him.
he was abandoned by his father. my brother managed to break that cycle with his kids. my dad is not a bad guy, just not very capable in family affairs.
we haven't even spoken yet, just the first letter back and forth and now emails. i haven't decided to see him. i want a relationship but i do not want to set myself up for more disappointment. he's never not once initiated contact with me. i sent him my phone number but he did not even call me on my birthday. he didn't know when my birthday was. this guy has never picked up the phone to call me. my father.
so its father's day. i hadn't thought this out in my pursuit of him. i couldn't find a card to send. it was upsetting looking through the cards. the i love you cards, greatest dad cards, thank you cards, all non-applicable. why don't they make generic, non-emotional father's day cards. you know like a thanx for fertilizing mom card.
i don't know what to do. my brother says it is not inappropriate to not send a father's day card. i feel like i should send something. i looked for an emailable card but they are all to sappy. jibjab has one about dad turning into an ax murdering boogy man. but i thought that a bit over the top.
i want to tell him how i feel about all this but why ruin his father's day.
what to do? happy father's day.
he was abandoned by his father. my brother managed to break that cycle with his kids. my dad is not a bad guy, just not very capable in family affairs.
we haven't even spoken yet, just the first letter back and forth and now emails. i haven't decided to see him. i want a relationship but i do not want to set myself up for more disappointment. he's never not once initiated contact with me. i sent him my phone number but he did not even call me on my birthday. he didn't know when my birthday was. this guy has never picked up the phone to call me. my father.
so its father's day. i hadn't thought this out in my pursuit of him. i couldn't find a card to send. it was upsetting looking through the cards. the i love you cards, greatest dad cards, thank you cards, all non-applicable. why don't they make generic, non-emotional father's day cards. you know like a thanx for fertilizing mom card.
i don't know what to do. my brother says it is not inappropriate to not send a father's day card. i feel like i should send something. i looked for an emailable card but they are all to sappy. jibjab has one about dad turning into an ax murdering boogy man. but i thought that a bit over the top.
i want to tell him how i feel about all this but why ruin his father's day.
what to do? happy father's day.