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Btravlin: Thanks for the post and being there for your parents.
+1. A post like that is an eye opener for someone (me, e.g) who hasn't gone through it.
Btravlin: Thanks for the post and being there for your parents.
Really helpful thread.
I recently told DH if/when our kids suggest we need assisted living, we will do it. He said, good idea, unless we don't. Ummm....
This thread is making me think about the cost of assisted living for my parents. If I were to justify my on-going OMY syndrome, this would be it. I need to pad my RE fund to make room for my parents assisted living cost.
Yes, something the kids will think about before they tell us it's time. In their case, $$ for our ltc will diminish any inheritance, so that's another more indirect reason they would not suggest it until they think it is really necessary.
Good friends of mine have parents in the denial stage of things right now. 90+94 and really need to be in assisted living but refuse to do so. I have gently made the recommendation that they should start really pushing to try and get them into assisted living. None of the 3 kids (50's+60's now) will try to do this, but it is becoming a real issue with them (the people taking care of them...the 3 plus families) at this time. I won't stick my nose in further, but I think both sides are trying to avoid what needs to be done. It is a bugger of a position to be in for both sides.
That'd be sad if one's children are thinking that way.
There's a saying, paraphrasing, rich parents tend to have filial children .
If one of the spouses is capable of living independently, they both might remain at home with the support of in-home health care aides. They can help with ADLs and improvements can be made to most homes to accommodate this type of need.But what if she hated it, as both Mr. A. and I would? It sounds like the healthy spouse could have to sentence themselves to spending their final decent years in the hated CCRF environment. Has anyone seen this occur?
After my father passed away my mother lived by herself for a couple of years and then checked herself into an independent care facility. Best gift she could have given her kids - we never worried. I tell people I meet about what she did and that it saved so many sleepless nights.
Thanks for the update, BTravlin.
I sure hope things work out for your *ILs.
Question: Is FIL being miserly or trying to leave more inheritance to his children? Regardless of the answer, your MIL deserves better (and it's her money too).
Australian researcher Shaun Frost tested 40 people using a liquid form of curcumin, the natural substance that makes curry yellow. Curcumin sticks to beta amyloids, allowing doctors to spot the proteins with a simple eye test.
Frost found that the test positively identified 100 percent of the participants who had Alzheimer's.
Or is FIL suffering from dementia himself. Of course it could be the reation to change. Let's face it when you start thinking about assisted living, lots of other fears come out. My DFs last year was a nightmare, Dementia that he could no longer hide, an unnatural fear of going to nursing home. I'm glad he is not suffering any more.
Does the state FIL lives in have an agency to come to his home and evaluate his ability to care for himself?
I'll be hoping better days are ahead for your family.
Best wishes,
MRG
Imagine diagnosing Alzheimers 10 or 20 years early:
Eye test may be able to detect Alzheimer's decades before onset - CBS News
Frost found that the test positively identified 100 percent of the participants who had Alzheimer's.
News releases from the mass media for the general public rarely show the depth of analysis we demand, but that doesn't mean the underlying report suffers the same deficiency. From the Alzheimers Association website AAIC Press Release | AAIC 2014Interesting, but that report is missing some key info:
I could say the same about a "pulse test": ERD50 found that 100 percent of the participants who had Alzheimer's also had a pulse.
IOW, it isn't telling us how many false positives there are. None? Hopefully, this is a good test and leads to better treatments. Is it just eye drops and a scan?
-ERD50
So, it's a simple test that is low cost and easy to administer. It still has some accuracy weaknesses. It doesn't actually detect the presence of the disease, just a protein in the brain (amyloid) that is associated with AD. It also may track the progress of amyloid buildup, which would be a major breakthrough. (All this my layman's understanding)Preliminary results suggest that amyloid levels detected in the retina were significantly correlated with brain amyloid levels as shown by PET imaging. The retinal amyloid test also differentiated between Alzheimer's and non-Alzheimer's subjects with 100 percent sensitivity and 80.6 percent specificity.
Furthermore, longitudinal studies on an initial cohort demonstrated an average of 3.5% increase in retinal amyloid over a 3.5-month period of time demonstrating promise of the technique as a means for monitoring response to therapy.
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