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So my sweet daughter is about to turn 5 and I am in the midst of planning her party. We requested her guests (fellow kinderkids) bring a new wrapped book for an exchange in lieu of gifts.
My daughter has a room FULL of toys and does not need one more stuffed anything. Also, I find the cheap stuff people tend to buy for these things annoying and adding to the clutter.
We have a new rule that when/if she gets a new stuffed toy, she has to decide one to give away, so the volume is at least not increased - this policy is for the surprise/impulse gifts throughout the year from relatives. (who I already tried to ask to resist these moments).
Also, for the holidays, I try to coordinate with my siblings and parents so they don't go nuts and get her a zillion things, but one or two nice things and maybe some clothes, which she actually needs since she is always growing.
I feel good about these choices, but sometimes I feel like a grinch (or am made to feel that way by my sisters!)
Also, for the holidays, I've stopped giving gifts and donate in their name (family and friends) to a nonprofit (this year will be kiva). Sure I feel good about this, but do others perceive this as grinchy? I do try and give a nice gift for everyone's bday, so everyone gets something at least once a year form me...
My daughter has a room FULL of toys and does not need one more stuffed anything. Also, I find the cheap stuff people tend to buy for these things annoying and adding to the clutter.
We have a new rule that when/if she gets a new stuffed toy, she has to decide one to give away, so the volume is at least not increased - this policy is for the surprise/impulse gifts throughout the year from relatives. (who I already tried to ask to resist these moments).
Also, for the holidays, I try to coordinate with my siblings and parents so they don't go nuts and get her a zillion things, but one or two nice things and maybe some clothes, which she actually needs since she is always growing.
I feel good about these choices, but sometimes I feel like a grinch (or am made to feel that way by my sisters!)
Also, for the holidays, I've stopped giving gifts and donate in their name (family and friends) to a nonprofit (this year will be kiva). Sure I feel good about this, but do others perceive this as grinchy? I do try and give a nice gift for everyone's bday, so everyone gets something at least once a year form me...