Thanks for all the good suggestions. DH is starting to be able to do somethings for himself, like dress himself, but I need to help him shower but he does not do that every day.
During my recovery from TKR surgery, I did sponge baths until I was permitted to get into the shower. Then after that it took a while longer until I could actually do that safely, so I continued with sponge baths. No fun at all! When I felt ready to try getting into the shower and showering by myself, Frank insisted on being here and sitting close enough to hear me if I called, so that he could come and rescue me or call 911 if necessary.
I was very proud when I became able to get in the shower safely all by myself. For a few weeks after we were sure I could do this, I still took my cell phone and reading glasses, and put them on something low just outside the shower while I was showering. This was so I could reach the phone from the shower floor if I fell, and call him if necessary. But I never fell and it was never an issue.
He never had to physically assist me to get in or out of the shower, or to wash myself while in the shower.
I can leave him to run errands while the PT is here. As for groceries, i have done Walmart pick up all along and like it but right now with my back i cannot get the groceries from the car up the 5 steps and into the house so that is why I want to do grocery delivery. I am going to try Whole Foods/Amazon Prime next. Fortunately money is not a huge issue.
Grocery delivery, or delivery of prepared food, is a good idea. I had pre-cooked meals in the freezer that I prepared before my surgery, and occasionally Frank brought me take-out.
I had a housekeeper I like pre Covid and I am trying to contact her but so far I have not been able to find her. We don't have any yard work so that is good.
No advice about that. I don't have a housekeeper. I'd suggest that while he is recovering, he's probably paying more attention to his knee than he is paying attention to how clean your floors are and so on. So if it was me, I'd just let it ride for now until your back is better.
I think I would be OK if my back had not started acting up (from having to lift DH's leg--fortunately he is lifting it now himself). I have a therapeutic message scheduled for tomorrow. I also have an appt with a back doctor but it is a month a way is the closest date I could get.
You have my sympathies! Back pain can be so bad. This seems to me like your number one problem by far, right now. I would suggest a heating pad and ice packs and tylenol, and that sort of thing, but you probably know what works for you and already have that.
Friends and the Church have been bringing us meals so that is a blessing.
Perfect!
I have already told DH if he needs to have his second knee done he has to wait until we get into the CCRC (we are on the waiting list).
Hopefully things will get sorted out before then. In my case, I planned to have my second knee done ASAP but much to my surprise I didn't need it. When one knee had surgery and was strong, it was so much help to the other one that I have less pain and I am much more stable even without the second surgery.