Moemg
Gone but not forgotten
I used to go to a Physician that called me young lady .I found it condescending .I ended up changing Physicians .As for waitresses calling me Hon I really do not care . I find it amusing when they use it to excess.
Some folks spend way too much time sweating the small stuff......
Well, not necessarily be waitresses. We don't go out to eat a lot, but have been called hon, honey, sweetie, Miss, Ma'am, beautiful, Miss (first name), mamacita (my parking garage in the Bronx)
Nope, doesn't bother me. Nor does being wished a Blessed Day. I think it's sweet.
I'm from NY. I've heard a lot worse.
I can understand this.Interesting that I’m almost alone in feeling the way I do about this. I would understand if I lived in the South, but I live in So CA and this virtually never happened here until a year or two ago.
In my last job, I worked for a senior living operator. We actually trained our people not to call the residents by anything other than their names out of respect. Using these overly familiar terms was considered potentially insulting and therefore best avoided. Perhaps this is why I’m sensitive to it.
I definitely am not a “chip on the shoulder” type person. I’m pretty laid back, actually, but this recent phenomenon just got me thinking that I must really look old to be getting this treatment.
Perhaps the best response is to respond in kind. If strangers think it’s a nice thing to call me “honey” or “sweetie,” then I suppose they’ll like being addressed in a similar manner. That will either help me get used to it, or if they don’t like it, we can have a conversation about how we should address each other going forward.
Interesting that I’m almost alone in feeling the way I do about this. I would understand if I lived in the South, but I live in So CA and this virtually never happened here until a year or two ago.
In my last job, I worked for a senior living operator. We actually trained our people not to call the residents by anything other than their names out of respect. Using these overly familiar terms was considered potentially insulting and therefore best avoided. Perhaps this is why I’m sensitive to it.
I definitely am not a “chip on the shoulder” type person. I’m pretty laid back, actually, but this recent phenomenon just got me thinking that I must really look old to be getting this treatment.
Perhaps the best response is to respond in kind. If strangers think it’s a nice thing to call me “honey” or “sweetie,” then I suppose they’ll like being addressed in a similar manner. That will either help me get used to it, or if they don’t like it, we can have a conversation about how we should address each other going forward.
Interesting that I’m almost alone in feeling the way I do about this. I would understand if I lived in the South, but I live in So CA and this virtually never happened here until a year or two ago.
In my last job, I worked for a senior living operator. We actually trained our people not to call the residents by anything other than their names out of respect. Using these overly familiar terms was considered potentially insulting and therefore best avoided. Perhaps this is why I’m sensitive to it.
I definitely am not a “chip on the shoulder” type person. I’m pretty laid back, actually, but this recent phenomenon just got me thinking that I must really look old to be getting this treatment.
Perhaps the best response is to respond in kind. If strangers think it’s a nice thing to call me “honey” or “sweetie,” then I suppose they’ll like being addressed in a similar manner. That will either help me get used to it, or if they don’t like it, we can have a conversation about how we should address each other going forward.
Well hun, maybe it is you
Seriously, it is unlikely that an active woman in her later 50's, as you are, would look "old". In any event, I would put more weight on how DH thinks you look than a random waitress.
As for this happening recently in SoCal, I would either blow it off, or attribute it to in-migration from regions where that vernacular is more common. For all it's challenges, SoCal is still an appealing place to live.
But, have you worked as a waitress?
Standing on your feet until it hurts; having to move fast to deal with multiple tables; having to listen to people complain about their orders - and complain about you. They are called in shrill voices "WAITRESS" "Miss, Miss" but if the customers are not downright mean, and some are, you don't mind if they call you Honey.
If it is slow, there are times when it can be pleasant with good customers. I remember some of the older men were very sweet and would also give nice tips.
I also remember when I was 18, going into the ladies room to cry, and being chased in their by two women who wanted to keep complaining. You see, I had interrupted their tirade by leaving.
Oh, not to mention if you got a temperamental cook.
Now, it's been a very long time since I was a waitress, and maybe now it's completely different.
Hon, babe, dahlin, love, sir: I find all these terms endearing but don’t show it. DW bristles if a young waitress gets too familiar with me.
DW bristles if a young waitress gets too familiar with me.
Do you mean she starts to sprout facial hair?
Honestly, why? It's not like you're going to run off with the waitress...or are you?
Some folks spend way too much time sweating the small stuff......
I believe this question was answered years ago.
"You don't have to call me darlin', darlin'.
You never even call me by my name."
- David Allen Coe
This song contains other life lessons.
"I was drunk the day my mama got out of prison"