Early Widow

[Dreamer]

Has she actually asked you for any guidance? Now I know financial security is important. But in your shoes my number one goal would be to make sure my relationship with grandkids stays intact. Offer comments only if asked and only once...if DIL comes back with more questions answer those questions and then stop.

Make DIL think that you feel she is capable and in control.

+1000

My number one priority would be making sure my relationship with the grandkids stay intact. I would support the daughter-in-law in whatever way I could. I would try to only offer advice, if actually asked for it.