Alternative viewpoint
My condolences to the Op and all who have recently lost a loved one.
To all, I suggest considering the following pripr to deciding to accept any compensation for serving as an Executor.
While one's parents were alive, did siblings contribute to the plethora of activities and obligations in a regular and equal fashion?
Responsibilities may have included regular traditional shopping ( not internet shopping by armchair), active involvement in scheduling appointments, dirrct participation in doctors visits, regular oversight of finances, regular in-person visitation, responding in person to unexpected situations including but not limited to medical emergencies; sitting bedside for one, several or many days in an emergency room (numerous cycles of this activity as needed); staying bedside in inpatient rooms, and rehab hospitals.
I am one of three brothers. One brother and I have disproportionately provided MOST of the support listed above (we live minutes from my 90+ year old mother's senior facility). I handled 90% of the closing of Mom's coop, including packing, cleaning, overseeing repairs neglected for 25 years, the real estate sale, + the transition to Moms new apartment at the Senior facility (literally all of the set up).
In contrast, my oldest brother visits approximately 3 times a year... for two - three days. With each of the last five emergencies, our eldest brother will fly up for ~30 hours. Noteworthy, my oldest brother is the Executor of our Mother's estate (no options offered to me or my other brother to serve as the Executor or co- Executor).
Unequivocally, and uncontested by anyone (including our oldest brother), my brother who lives locally and I have contributed disproportionately for decades; we've given immeasurable time, missed countless family vacations and our own children's once in a lifetime events to be there for Mom. Seemingly, we are literally on call 24x7x nearly all year.
I routinely handle the minutiae of bills, banking, followup on the plethora of insurance bills, I facilitate gifting throughout the year to grandchildren, great grandchildren of our oldest brother, and others.
Importantly, my brother who lives locally handles most non-emergent medical related needs- there are many of these activities.
Regardless of the residual amount left in the estate when Mom passes, there could never be sufficient money to appropriately recognize the disproportionate efforts put forth by the two of us who live locally. To be clear we do what we do out of love, respect and because " it is the right thing to do."
Our oldest brother has pledged that other than reasonable actual expenses, he does not plan on accepting 'Executor compensation.'
I hope every Executor reflects deeply in regards to what might constitute disproportionate support provided prior to a loved one's death.
Where there is a pattern of unambiguous disproportionate care and support... in my estimation, an Executor should decline compensation...AND, he/she should strongly consider using their share of an inheritance to bestow meaningful material gifts to siblings who gave selflessly.
Apologies if I offered anyone with this post.
Again, my condolences.