Last year, I loaned my ex-wife first and last month's rent so she could move out of our son's apartment, telling her she could start paying me back in August of 2023.
She was 2 years sober and getting her act together at the time after decades of imprudence, financial and otherwise.
I don't need the money, there's no bitterness left, and for all our faults as spouses, we worked well together to raise our son ("we love our child more than we hate each other" was how I described it 20 years ago).
My question is: should I forgive the debt that I don't think she'll be able to pay back without stress and worry, or hold her to it so that she can feel the accomplishment of being a responsible adult?
I'm putting it here because it's probably a common post-FIRE situation, to navigate helping relatives in need...
She was 2 years sober and getting her act together at the time after decades of imprudence, financial and otherwise.
I don't need the money, there's no bitterness left, and for all our faults as spouses, we worked well together to raise our son ("we love our child more than we hate each other" was how I described it 20 years ago).
My question is: should I forgive the debt that I don't think she'll be able to pay back without stress and worry, or hold her to it so that she can feel the accomplishment of being a responsible adult?
I'm putting it here because it's probably a common post-FIRE situation, to navigate helping relatives in need...