I have not read the 3 pages of replies. I barely scanned them but I can comment from the aspect of being a registered professional guardian. From what is written it seems your dad is not able to independently handle the ADL's or Activities of Daily Living. Those activities involve everything from medication management, money management, food preparation, hygiene and so on.
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None of my research on ADLs nor Dad's LTC policy definition of ADLs mentions money management or finances.
I did just now stumble onto "Instrumental Activities of Daily Living" or IADLs that supplement the formal ADLs.
1. Basic communication skills - such as using a regular phone, mobile phone, email, or the Internet
>Dad can't work his phone, can no longer handle email, and never could "internet".
2. Transportation - either by driving oneself, arranging rides, or the ability to use public transportation
>I've taken Dad's keys. He won't arrange rides or gets into cars with strangers when they offer him a ride when he's walking somewhere.
3. Meal preparation - meal planning, cooking, clean up, storage, and the ability to safely use kitchen equipment and utensils
> safely use=no, clean up=no, he has left his freezer door open multiple times resulting in all of the meet turning grayish brown... "thats just freezer burn".
4. Shopping - the ability to make appropriate food and clothing purchase decisions
> This he does OK.
5. Housework - doing laundry, washing dishes, dusting, vacuuming, and maintaining a hygienic place of residence
>We always have to re-wash any dishes/utensils before using them.
>He rinses stuff off in a pan of dirty gray water he keeps in the sink to save water...
>last time he was there a wound on his hand started bleeding (dermatologist had recently burned off something) and he "cleaned it" using that same pan of grayish looking water.
>He's been known to mix up batches of weed killer from concentrate on his counter top... and is offended when I decline his offer of a sandwich..
6. Managing medications - taking accurate dosages at the appropriate times, managing re-fills, and avoiding conflicts
>nope. When the neuropsych interviewed him at 3PM he hadn't taken his morning meds yet.
>He is always running out or getting refill notifications when he "has plenty left yet"... suggesting he's not taking them regularly.
7. Managing personal finances - operating within a budget, writing checks, paying bills, and avoiding scams
>avoiding scams is a major no. Budget is a no... he just goes by if he has any $ in his account before making a donation... forgetting they he already donated to the same "charity" the week before.
The more examples I give the more I wonder why Drs refused to say anything other than "he's still making decisions, they're just bad decisions" a lot earlier than now. And yet even now I'm being warned since Dad "presents well" guardianship might not be a slam dunk. How bad does it have to get?!?!?
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